Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Are You Remarkable?

Re•mark•a•ble [ri-mahr-kuh-buhl] – adjective
1) notably or conspicuously unusual; extraordinary. 2) worthy of notice or attention.

Being remarkable is the quickest path to networking success! Being remarkable creates the momentum for success.

By its own definition, remarkable means worthy of being remarked, noticed that goes beyond ordinary or usual. Hence, uncommon and extraordinary. The word “remarkable” is much more powerful and implies a level of distinction far above and beyond your competitors. To think about what makes you remarkable forces real clarity on the one quality or characteristic that very obviously sets you apart from others.

Remarkable people don’t play it safe. They take risks. They are proactive. They live their lives full out. They live remarkable and adventurous lives.

Remarkable is better, different, unique, opposed, original – to the nth degree. Being remarkable also means that you stands out, stands in front of, and stand apart from. By being remarkable, you become noteworthy. Remarkable people say remarkable things. They give remarkable service.

“When you are sitting right on the edge of something daring and scary and creative and powerful and perhaps wonderful… and you blink and take a step back. That’s the moment. The moment between you and remarkable.” – Steven Bradley

Never hesitate to do what you know feels right for you. The reasons you hesitate are the very reasons someone else is less likely to take notice and remark on what you have to say or do. When you create remarkable buzz about you and your business and they can’t hear it, you’ve wasted your time.

I’ve never understood those who are you happy being average. Above average. . . maybe. However, if you believe in yourself and in what you do for others why not reach for the sky and become remarkable? Be genuine first and being remarkable will follow.

The very word reflects the idea that what is remarkable is something or someone that is worth making a remark about. What do people in your network remark about you? Do you do things that make them say, “WoW!”? Do you do extraordinary things that people talk about? Unleashing your remarkable potential can yield incredible results. What are you waiting for?

The willingness to risk the comfort of the familiar to find your true happiness is the path to living a remarkable life. The key to living remarkably – living according to your own passions and desires – is overcoming many of the fears and beliefs that are socially programmed into us. – Cody McKibben

Being remarkable opens your life up to many possibilities. People who are remarkable get noticed and rewarded. They haven’t become remarkable because their products or services are necessarily better, but because of the perception they’ve cultivated of being more unique, special and remarkable than the rest.

To be remarkable we have to be different. . . very different. Different isn’t good enough anymore. You have to be able to deliver remarkable results. Sometimes the only thing you have in common with other networkers is that you are different. Those differences you do have start with your actions. You must practice what you preach and appreciate what they have. Remarkable people are grateful people! They are nonconformists and are accountable for their actions.

They give more than they receive without being concerned about who gets the credit. They give more than they promise. I don’t mean effort, I mean really give something extra. My friend, Larry Winget, first introduced me to the idea of Lagniappe – (LAN-yap). The word entered English from Louisiana French. It’s a Cajun word that in its simplest form means: “and then some.” In other words, remarkable people give a lot and then some.

You can’t talk about being “remarkable” with referencing Seth Godin. He often will ask, “Are you invisible? Or are you remarkable.”

Consumers don’t care about you at all. They just don’t care. Part of the reason is that they have way more choices than they used to, and way less time. And in a world where we have too many choices, and too little time, the obvious thing to do is just ignore stuff. – Seth Godin

You can create a word-of-mouth campaign that will grow your business by leaps and bounds. The truth of the matter is this: if you are not being talked about in a positive light, you must be doing something wrong.

Remarkable relationships (business or otherwise) begin with remarkable one-on-one conversations. There is no room for shyness in networking. You cannot be remarkable if you are shy or boring. Snap out of your shell. Make a name for yourself. Be someone who is truly remarkable.

Jane Pollak, in talking about “The Law of Recognizable Credits” says, “As social beings, we can’t help but be influenced by the views of others. So having others brag about your accomplishments has a tremendous influence on how prospective clients view you. A member of one of my Mastermind Groups, Dawn Chiang, coined the term “The Law of Recognizable Credits” to describe the power of endorsement. Being able to show that your work of art, product or service has won recognition instantly boosts its value.”

It’s all part of being remarkable. You don’t need permission to brag about your accomplishments. Just don’t overdo it. Nobody likes anyone who only talks about themselves. Be cool. Exercise restraint and do it with finesse.

Who is telling their friends about you? Are people talking about you in a positive way? If not, why not? What value do you offer? What sense of belonging do you offer to your clients? Does your brand identity package truly stand out?

Nobody can achieve great things alone, but together we can help each other find great opportunity in networking. When you network closely with your peers, and get to know the things that they are interested in and passionate about, you learn what sort of people and opportunities you can connect them with. And if you do this in a spirit of collaboration and teamwork, they will do the same thing for you. People can tell if you are on a mission; that you truly believe in what you do and that you are authentic about who you are and what you do. Read, “The Networking Collaborative.”

Are you remarkable? It’s a simple question really and boils down to one thing – is there something about you, your product, or service that is worth commenting on? Either good or bad – will people talk about you? Or will you fade into a sea of mediocrity?

Part of being remarkable is to focus on creating network evangelists; people who will gladly spread the word about your remarkable products or services. Create amazing “buzz” from extremely satisfied “customer evangelists.” A customer evangelist is more than just a loyal customer. He or she has an emotional connection with you and your company.

“This kind of client connection can’t arise from a lawyer’s task mastery alone. It requires two-way, authentic human-to-human exchange, intimacy and understanding. It requires us to be well versed in feeling and conveying compassion and passion for ourselves and others. And it requires that we fervently believe in the quality and integrity of the services we provide.” – Arnie Herz, Attorney at Law

Who are you, and how are you remarkable? This is the first question and basically asks you to think about your talents and gifts – what makes you who you are, and when people meet you, how would they ‘remark’ about you to others? What are the things that other people say about you that make you stand out in their mind?

Your preferred style of social networking must be to spend face-to-face time with people who inspire you. You need inspiration to follow your passion. You will find these people at networking events. Don’t attend networking events? Go! You might meet somebody. It might become a mutually satisfying and financially rewarding relationship – all because you showed up. As a matter of fact, I believe that anytime you show up in public, you have an opportunity to network.

Remarkable people offer remarkable marketing. They offer outrageous guarantees, charge for results, position their message in direct opposition to the rest of the world and people love them for it.

Get some excitement into your life people, whatever form that works for you. You will meet so many amazing people in your life when you are networking, but must never lose sight of the truly remarkable person “you” are. Find a way to inspire people to “remark” about you and your business. You can become a pro at being remarkable. Live to be remarkable. Don’t just stand there. . . BE remarkable!

Bonus Article: “How to be Remarkable” by Seth Godin


Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Visit ” Networking HQ!”

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  1. […] to someone else in need. Always make a good impression. Make yourself unforgettable. Be “remarkable.” Inspire others. If you’re on the fence about networking. . . get off the fence. Do […]

    Pingback by What Makes You So Special? « Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James — Saturday, January 23, 2010 @ 6:18 am | Reply

  2. Great article, Larry! I am going to be remarkable from this day forward! Thanks!

    Comment by Joanie Guidry — Tuesday, January 5, 2010 @ 7:30 am | Reply

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