Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James

Monday, May 31, 2010

Shy, eh? Get Over It!

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Are you standing on the sidelines at networking events simply watching the action, feeling too shy or unimportant to get in the game?

If you are afraid of talking to people, how do you think they feel about talking to you? Many of them are just as afraid of you as you are of them. Afraid that you might ask them to step outside their comfort zone.

Business networking is all about creating rapport with others in the business world, the process involves direct interaction between people.

Fear of people and shyness are very real. It holds you back and prevents you from realizing your dreams and ambitions. If you’re sitting on the sidelines, whose fault is that? Hmmm.

Too bad! You don’t know what you’re missing. It’s time to get over that shyness and move forward with confidence and finesse.

Be Yourself – Just do what YOU do and don’t be afraid. I know. The first time is scary but if you keep going to networking events and never really put yourself out there you will never know the wonderful world of business networking. If you never make the effort to speak to others you will never become a part of their network. You’ll be all by yourself. Now that’s scary!

Introduce Yourself – “Hi. My name is Jenn. What do you do?” That didn’t hurt, did it? The key is to get the other person talking first. Listen for a connection to what you do. Ask questions. When you notice a connection and respond, you create a relationship bond. The other person will most likely ask you about your business, and you have the basis for future conversations.

Educate Yourself – Read networking articles and good networking books. What do you want to know? Do a Google.com search with a key word on a subject you would like to learn more about.

Be Brave – Dale Carnegie in his book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” once said, “Do the thing you fear to do and the death of fear is certain!” You should always very carefully examine the reasons why you choose not to do something. As long as something doesn’t harm you in some way, you can do it! You just have to face your fear and do it anyway. Once you have started, the fear you felt before will begin to disappear. Studies show that at least 85% or more of the world’s people suffer from some degree of a lack of self-esteem. Read, “The Impact of Lacking Self-Esteem on Business Professionals.”

Don’t Stop – Once you get started and introduce yourself to a few people and begin to ask questions, I feel certain that you will begin to see the benefits and they will far outweigh any fear that you once had.

Breaking out of your shy shell is strictly a solo act.

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