Have you ever been driving down a road and – distracted for a moment by a side road – and wondered what was down that road?
In life we take many different paths. Some are smart choices and others may lead you further away from what you really want. Often life feels like a maze in which you have to figure out the pathway to find your way out.
“Everything that you want to be… you already are, and you are simply on the path to discovering it.” ~ Alicia Keys, on the show, “Black Girls Rock!”
There is no safe path. Choosing the path you will take requires some degree of risk. Often the paths we choose offer new ways of learning that prepares us for future paths. Making choices isn’t always easy. However, never making a choice will keep you stuck!
Making a wise decision sometimes requires asking for assistance. Be sure you ask someone who is successful at doing what you want to do. Whether we recognize it at the time, there are people we encounter who can help or hurt us. Be very wary. Ensure that their intentions are good. When things sound too good, they usually are. When the scheme seems too fast, it may be just that – a fast one, with no redeeming value.
It has been my experience that some of the most successful people I know are more than willing to offer suggestions and in some cases will schedule an occasional mentoring session. Never be afraid to ask. Two such people for me were Tom Hopkins, professional speaker and Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of the Chicken Soup books, both very busy and certainly successful in their areas of expertise. Chance encounters with influential people can provide a bridge to an unexpected fork in the road. Be sure you area “looking” for opportunity otherwise you may not recognize it when it shows up.
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” ~ John Lennon
The choice to be on the wrong path narrows quickly and every step makes it harder to turn back. Don’t be someone who goes from one opportunity to the next at the drop of a hat because you want to be on the path to get rich quick. Genuine success take time. It’s important to learn – sooner than later – to recognize that the way you are heading is taking you in the wrong direction and that you need to make some changes.
How can you be 100% sure that the path you’ve chosen is the right path? The answer is within you. It takes some serious self-inquiry to know what you want and which path to choose. If the path you choose is littered with adversity, always remember, problems are to make us not to break us. We are often much stronger after a challenge and therefore better prepared for what is next.
We must learn to trust our intuition. Gut instinct is a valid compass that can lead us in the right direction. Sometimes we take several paths that lead us to do “some” of the things we wish to do, but than a better opportunity confronts us and we get to make another choice.
It took me many years to finally find my purpose in life. First I was a radio disc jockey. That was fun and I worked with many of the top recording artists in the 60s. I got paid $50 a week and all the records I could eat. 😉 I was in real estate for 23 years which led me to training the new associates at Detrick, Realtors, the largest company in Tulsa, Oklahoma. As time passed, I was appointed by the Governor to the Oklahoma Real Estate Commission and I began speaking state-wide. After an appearance on ABC TVs “The View” where Barbara Walters interviewed me when my first relationship book, “How to Really Love the One You’re With” was released, my career took a new national path. Later I began performing “romantic” wedding ceremonies that fit nicely with my relationship books and seminars.
Each path taught me something different and each prepared me for what I am doing today. I am grateful that I took the time to investigate each opportunity before I took the first step. Sometimes we have to take the first step while we are still afraid.
Do I need to remind you that it’s essential to have time to think and know what it is you want to do in life? You need a plan. Make sure your plan is loose enough to allow you to adapt when life presents you another path.
Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”
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