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Thursday, December 6, 2012

To Be an Effective Networker You Must Be Coachable! ~ Part One

Filed under: Coaching,Networking — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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All winners have coaches! Especially networkers. They win more consistently than others because they are always open to listen to and put to use the new ideas that present themselves when they are available for coaching. They are always looking for a better way.

coachingBeing coachable is a tough commitment. Being coachable is being teachable. Not everyone is willing to be coached or taught. Superstar networkers always have coaches.

To be coachable ya gotta wanna be better at what you do. If you are not sincerely interested in being the best that you can be, you may just as well skip this article. No kidding. If you are falling short of your potential, maybe you should stop skipping around in your life and focus in on something that can truly make a major difference in your life. It’s a fact, if you are coachable, your life will work much better.

“Coachability is the willingness to be corrected and to act on that correction. When we are coachable, we are prepared to be wrong. We can withstand a high degree of candor. We are willing to let others evaluate — and perhaps even plumb the depths of our performance because we understand that the journey of personal development cannot be traveled alone.” ~ Timothy R. Clark, from the article, “On Leadership: Are you coachable?

Coaching2To be coachable you must be at a point where you have a level of self-esteem that is higher than average. You must love yourself and you must be in touch with who you are. Being coachable is difficult enough without having the extra burden of low self-image. If you are someone who makes excuses and blames others, you are probably not ready to be coachable. To be coachable is to take total responsibility for your life. You will learn to be more responsible – voluntarily.

Being coachable will keep you motivated. It will keep you involved in life. You will be consistently inspired by what other people say. You will expect good instead of bad things to happen. When you are coachable you will find good where before, you may have only expected bad. You will find yourself winning more than losing and operating more consistently at peak performance when you are coachable. Being coachable will increase your commitment and your productivity.

You will learn ways to bounce back more easily after a setback. Being coachable is being supportable. If you come across as if you already know everything, you will find others avoiding you. When you are courageous enough to ask for assistance, you will find that others will be more willing to support you in what you are up to in life. They will offer information; they will go out of their way to help you. This is a problem area for some people. The commitment of being coachable will support you in sculpturing a new and exciting you; the kind of new you that allows others to contribute to your life.

Coaching3Being coachable is learning to listen differently. It is learning to make every conversation you have with others, count! It is allowing their words to be a major contribution to your life. Being truly coachable will get you fired up!

A lot of people can’t handle this one. They have things made up a specific way and that’s it. They tend to place restrictions on who can become one of their teachers. They “already know” therefore no one can tell them anything. How sad. It is a mistake not to look outside the rigid boundaries of accepted thought and tradition for answers.

When we are open to coaching, we are open to hear what others say as an opportunity to look at things differently. We miss out on opportunities because we are closed to the possibilities that are present in the conversations we have with other people. Being coachable will force you out of your comfort zone.

You must listen for opportunity to be able to recognize it when it shows up. I suggest that you listen to every conversation you have when networking as if it were a conversation for possibility. I have found that when you listen as if you are hearing coaching from everyone you talk with, there is almost always something there that you can adapt for your business. AND not just from a coach you may choose to hire, but from “everyone!” A better way. A better idea, etc. Develop an attitude of “What if…” What if the idea that Sally just shared would work in my business with a little tweaking?

Do you think you know what being coachable really means? In “Part Two” of this article we will look at the two kinds of coaching. You may be in for a surprise. Click here for Part Two.


Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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1 Comment »

  1. […] If you haven’t read “Part One,” it’s recommended that you read it first. Click here for Part One. […]

    Pingback by To Be an Effective Networker You Must Be Coachable! ~ Part Two « Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James — Monday, December 10, 2012 @ 8:34 am | Reply

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