You are special. Every human being is incredibly unique. The way you choose to contribute has “you” written all over it. It tells who you are. I saw a poster once that said, “We all contribute in different ways. When we learn to honor the difference, and appreciate the mix, we find harmony.” Contribution enriches your life and the lives of others. Everyone is nourished by contribution.
Contributing to others is one of the most important principles of networking. Before you think about asking for help from those in your network, you should ask others about their needs and offer to assist them. When you offer to help others, it is important for you to follow up on your promise.
It doesn’t pay to be selfish or self-centered. Only self-centered people reach their level of incompetence. When your energy is self-directed it is easy to lose touch with who you can be for others. Self-centeredness is an energy drain. It will have you only pay attention to yourself. Not good. “Me only” doesn’t work. It causes your focus to be on only you. Contribution is a two-way street.
The famous psychiatrist, Alfred Adler said, “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from such individuals that all human failure springs.”
We are called to share our lives with others. It is important to understand that contribution can be like a candle. Have you ever noticed that a candle loses none of its power by lighting another candle? In fact, as long as a candle burns, there is no limit to the number of other candles it can light. This is because it is the channel for an energy, which comes from a limitless source.
Make sure you have an understanding of the needs and interests of people in your network so you can provide them with referrals, important information, job and business leads or resources. In order to network effectively and genuinely, you must continuously contribute to others. This builds trust and credibility within your networking circles. It takes time to reach this level, and it is well worth the extra effort.
Share yourself. Do things for people. Surprise someone. The true test of how you feel about yourself is to do something special for someone and make sure they don’t know who did it. A poet once wrote, “The greatest gift is to fill a need unnoticed.” Being of service makes us feel good. Don’t give until it hurts. Give until is feels good. Give until it helps. When I give to you, I experience the gift first. Someone once said, “Flowers leave their fragrance on the hand of the giver.” Look at contribution as a gift; a gift you give and a gift you receive.
You can never be less than who you are when you are willing to give a part of yourself to others to make a difference in their lives.
Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”
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