Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James

Thursday, November 7, 2013

How Big is Your Carrot?

You could probably write a book about all the creative things you’ve done to avoid making the decisions you are afraid to make. I believe it all gets back to Commitment #1, “Blueprint Your Life!” – in other words… set some networking goals.

BIGcarrotIf the carrot is big enough, if it looks good when you close your eyes and visualize it, if have a burning passion about it and if it is good for all concerned, then why wouldn’t you want to put yourself “out there” and do what needs to be done? Concentrate on the important and postpone the trivial. The reason things may not be happening for you is that you have yet to understand that until you do what needs to be done, nothing happens.

Accept the responsibility that you make things happen. If you are someone who complains about the way the ball bounces you are most likely the one who dropped it. Make something happen you can be proud of. Make something happen that you can become passionate about – something that serves others and makes you and others feel good. Make something happen that will have people look at you and say, “There goes a person with integrity. She doesn’t just talk about it, she does it.”

Accept responsibility for your own personal development. You can’t count on others for this. Remember, if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. When you get the burn to learn, you will begin to earn self-respect, money and much more. Read good books, listen to cassettes, and attend seminars and workshops. Consistently work on yourself. If you don’t, who will?

One sure sign that you are not accepting responsibility is to consistently cast blame on: the weather, the economy, your boss, your customers, your spouse or significant other, your kids and on and on. Elmer G. Leterman said, “A man may fail many times, but he won’t be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.” No one is defeated until he or she starts blaming someone or something else. Want success? Learn that accepting responsibility for your own success and achievement is mandatory not optional.

Life works. It works in direct proportion to the way you work it. It is working just the way you have planned it. If you are saying to yourself, “This is simply not true!” you most likely do not have a written plan. No plan is a plan to have things happen the way they happen. Consider the fact that your life is the way it is because of the choices you have made up to this point.

You must accept responsibility for your choices and for the consequences of your actions. Accept responsibility for the way things are. If you don’t like the way things are, change them. Unless you have a plan for life to be different than it is right now, life will continue to show up the way it always has for you.

Be accountable to yourself. When things work; take the credit. When things don’t work, take the heat.


Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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