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Sunday, December 28, 2014

ATTENTION: Networking Leaders…

“When you are the leader of a networking group, it’s important for you to provide activities that get people to actually network. I have found that people tend to be like water – they tend to seek the path of least resistance. Without some structure at networking events, they will often do what is easiest, instead of what is best. This is why it’s very important that you offer activities & exercises which will remind them that it’s not called “netSIT” or “netEAT; it’s called “netWORK”.” ~ Ivan Misner

NETactivitiesAlmost 60% of Americans say they feel shy and unsure about what to say in a variety of business and social settings. Structured networking with group activities helps your networking group avoid some of the tension associated with networking. It takes about six conversations with someone before he/she knows who you are and has some idea of your character and competence. It’s called building relationships. It’s important to design creative activities for your group to keep things moving and to encourage members to actually network.

Networking leaders must take the initiative to actually lead, not just conduct a meeting. If you’re waiting around for someone to tell you what to do to make your networking group work better, then you aren’t being a leader, you’re waiting for a leader. The best way to look like a leader is to actually lead by example. It’s important for Network Leaders to use at least one networking activity at every meeting to encourage involvement and commitment to the process of networking. One such activity can be to have each person who give their “30-second connection” (or elevator speech) to describe the value they received and the connections they have made by being a member of your group. This is especially good for newer members to hear.

Encourage all members to wear their name tags after they enter the meeting. Easy-to-read name tags are essential for a successful meeting. If you print them out on a computer ahead of time, use a very large font size for the first name. If you ask people to make name tags as they arrive, encourage them to write their first names big. Name tags are easier to read when worn high on the right shoulder.

As a leader, make certain that everyone knows each other. Make a special effort to introduce new members to others in the group that might be someone they need to meet.

Appoint someone to be in charge of keeping a list of “current” attendees. List their names, business classification, e-mail, and contact information and make them available to every member. Have copies of the list in a prominent place and remind people to pick one up. Encourage them to carry this list with them as they go about their daily business. That way they can be ready to give a referral to some of their clients.

Encourage members to plan to meet other members outside of the meeting to get to know each other better. Ask for a brief comment from members who did this each week. What did they learn that they didn’t know about the member they met with? Asking your members to report their network activities can lead to some new ideas being passed around. When members know they will be asked to report on their network activities, they tend to become more active.

Invite someone who’s comfortable in front of a crowd and whose enthusiasm will be contagious to lead special activities. Don’t automatically assume that the President of the group should lead the activity. He/she has lots of other responsibilities. Look for a new face or invite someone whom you’d like to be more involved. The success of these activities depends, in large part, on the personality and energy of the person who leads them.

Each week choose someone special to act as a greeter. Position them at the door to welcome everyone. Their job is to warm up the group and improve the quality of networking that goes on. Advantage: each greeter gets to know individual members more intimately. Part of their responsibility is to:

• Arrive at least 15 minutes before the meeting begins.
• Greet people near the door.
• Introduce yourself.
• Shake hands with everyone.
• Show people where to find their name tag.
• Introduce the person you’ve just greeted to at least one other person before you leave to welcome another new arrival.
• Be on the lookout for people who may be shy about participating or who might be left out when there’s a group activity.

Always remember, leaders are responsible for enlisting the help of certain members to help create an exciting and highly valuable networking experience each week. You may want to have a special outside meeting with a few of the more outgoing members to discuss new and exciting ways to keep the members active during the meetings as well as outside of the meetings. Always focus your attention and energy on the people who are eager to participate. Makes notes at each of these meetings and no matter how far out the idea may be, spend some time reshaping it so that it fits your group.

I once asked members to face the person to their right, each member takes 5 minutes to talk about anything BUT business. Two of the members discovered that they had common outside interests and not only did they get to know each other better but used their new found knowledge to develop a unique way to give each other referrals. The group loved this idea and about once a month would feature this activity. Another idea was to take turns telling your partner the 2 truths and a lie about yourself. Listen to their 2 truths and a lie and then have a conversation in which you try to figure out what’s true and what’s not. You can learn a lot about someone with this activity. I also asked them to share something new that they learned.

Some groups have a member speak about their business each week for 10 or 15 minutes. I would often ask the members to sit with someone that they need to know better and instead of having a speaker, have them turn to that member and talk about their businesses for 10 or 15 minutes, then ask several members to talk for 2 or 3 minutes about something they learned about the person they talked with. Discourage members to always sit with the same people. I’ve seen several groups break apart because some of their members became involved in cliques. When you see this happening… it’s a red flag and you need to design something to get everyone involved with each other.

Another idea is to invite an outside speaker to talk about various business strategies, or invite an author to talk about their book. About once each quarter I would invite 3 business people outside of the group to participate in a panel discussion where members could ask questions. I called it, “Meet the Pros!” This would usually take about 30 minutes. Tell the pros to make their time with your group strictly educational and never sales-oriented. Be sure to introduce them and tell about their business before the panel discussion begins.

I don’t think its a good idea to ever not have members give their 30-second connection at the beginning of the meeting. By the way, many of you know that I have written a book about networking and would be happy to speak to your group. Call me for details: 480-205-3694.

As a leader, with the tone you set and the activities you lead, your networking members are sure to make networking an art.

Interested in learning more activities for networkers, Google “activities for business networking!”

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Always Wear Your Name Tag When Networking!

Filed under: Name Tags — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Ivan Misner, Guest Author

Always wear your name tag!

We’ve heard every possible excuse not to wear name tags, and all of them can be rebutted:

NETname-tag“Name tags look silly.” Yes, they do. But, remember, everyone else is wearing one, too.

“Name tags ruin my clothes.” Not if you wear them on the edge of your lapel, or use cloth-safe connectors, like lanyards and plastic clips.

“But I already know everybody.” No, you don’t. You may think you do, but people join and leave businesses and organizations all the time.

“But everyone already knows me.” No, they don’t. Even the best networkers know there’s always someone new to meet.

Your name tag is your best friend for several reasons. First of all, a person’s name is the single piece of personal information most often forgotten – and people are less likely to approach you if they don’t know (or have forgotten) your name.

Second, it’s free advertising for you and your company. Third, name tags encourage people to be friendly and more approachable.

Larry’s TIPs: Always place your name tag on the right side of your clothing. That way, as you shake hands, the line of your arm draws the other person’s attention directly to the name tag. Emily Post’s Etiquette Daily website agrees with my friend from Texas that the name tag should be worn on the right so that it’s easier to read. When you meet someone new, call them by their name right away. This will assist you in remembering their name.

If you can, avoid “hanging” name tags. The length is hard to estimate and therefore the tags usually end up somewhere close to your belly. It’s embarrassing if you’re already supposed to know the person and you’re looking at their belly for a prompt to remember their name. If name tags are provided at an event, use them. Don’t be a name tag snob. They really are there to make meeting and greeting others easier. They reduce potential awkward moments and help you remember names gracefully.

NOTE: The name tag image above shows my networking business card. The front side usually has my first name in large letters and my last name in smaller letters under my first name and business cards stashed behind my name tag to keep them handy.

BONUS Article: Seven Deadly Sins of Ineffective Name Tags

Larry’s NOTE:  Need a “last-minute” name tag for you networking meeting?  Fill out a FREE Designers template for a temporary name tag or badge insert at:  http://www.layoutserver.nl/

MisnerCopyright © 2014 – Ivan Misner. Called the father of modern networking, Dr. Ivan Misner is the Founder of BNI and the senior partner for the Referral Institute. He has written nine books, including his New York Times best seller, Truth or Delusion? Busting Networking’s Biggest Myths.

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netHQLarry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Give Generously and Graciously

Filed under: Giving,Networking,Relationships — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Whether you are new to networking or an old-timer when it comes to networking… perhaps one of the most important points to remember is based upon giving generously and graciously.

NETGiveGenerouslyAlthough reciprocity is important, learn to give without expectation of return; people will notice. Learn the definition of networking and adopt it as your guideline:

“Networking is using your creative talents to help others achieve their goals as you cultivate a network of people strategically positioned to support you in your goals… expecting nothing in return!” ~ Larry James

Never be put off by the fact that others in your network of support may not be as generous as you – just keep on giving generously. When others notice that you give so generously, you will certainly be acknowledged for being a great giver.

Others will automatically be drawn to you to simply be associated with you. They will introduce you to other great, gracious givers and this is when it gets serious… your network will truly begin to grow. Those relationships will be deep and meaningful. Believe me, that is how networking works.

Remember, networking and selling DO NOT mix! Think of yourself as a solution-finder, rather than a sales person. Be of assistance to others. “How can I help you?” is a great question to ask everyone you meet.

It’s important to “make” time to really get to know the people in your network. Book breakfasts, lunches, visits to each other’s places of business. Spend time with them. Ask lots of questions. That’s how relationships begin. When enough time passes you will learn more about them as a person, their business, their likes and dislikes and you will begin to know them well enough to make some headway with referrals.

You should also realize that the fruits of networking don’t happen overnight; in fact they take a lot of time and energy. When you stick with it, the magic really will occur.

BONUS Article: Are You a Superstar Networker?
Networking and Socializing – Never Confuse the Two
Reciprocity – The Implied Promise of Networking

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, December 12, 2014

How Many Networking Groups Should You Join?

Filed under: Loyalty — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Hmmm. The answer should be one!

I know people who are hopping around town visiting as many networking meetings as possible. Based upon what I know, that strategy is not very productive. It may feel like it however, most of the time it’s just you keeping on the go.

Many of you know that I started the Tulsa Business Connection when I lived in Tulsa, OK. We had a strict rule that if you wanted to become a member of TBC, you could only be a member of TBC. We grew from a core group of 5 to – at our peak – 67 members and was the most popular weekly networking group in the city. Membership was by “invitation-only.” We had a waiting list of people wanting to fill a business classification as soon as it became vacant, which was very seldom. Once admitted to TBC no one wanted to leave because of the group’s dedication and loyalty to helping each other. There were 67 different business classifications – only one classification per business, e.g., one banker, one plumber, etc. We had a residential Realtor® and a commercial Realtor® who were from the same company and worked together in separate divisions.

NETloyaltyWe were successful as a group because we were in constant communication with each other in and out of the meeting! We planned activities outside of the weekly networking meetings at least quarterly and some more often. All members were held accountable for regular attendance.

The leaders modeled behaviors we expected from our members. We were intimate friends who provided an extra level of attention, class, generosity, and follow up. Members were known as providers of reliable information, insights, connections and valuable resources. I started the group with rules that held members accountable and there were few complaints because everyone understood the “why” behind the rules. Those who did complain usually left the group after a couple of weeks because they couldn’t sell anything to anyone. They never learned that networking is not about selling… it’s about giving!

Why have such a rule of belonging to only one networking group? To me it’s simple… it’s a matter of loyalty! Loyalty goes hand in hand with trustworthiness. Loyalty unites and that’s a good thing. With a group like TBC, you didn’t need to join more than one group.

Let’s talk about loyalty. Let’s say you belong to two networking groups. What happens when you come upon a referral that could be given to a plumber and you have to decide which of the two plumbers to give the referral to? Some would say both. I say, to whom do you owe your higher allegiance? The question becomes who deserves your loyalty? Honestly… you shouldn’t have to choose. The solution is to belong to only one group.

LoyaltyI will say that even though this rarely happens, there could be a plumber in your group that hasn’t earned your respect and loyalty who may not receive the referral. In rare instances, I would say that if there is no trust present with that plumber, give it to a plumber outside of your group. The Tulsa Business Connection didn’t have people like that. Each new member was carefully screened, reputation checked, integrity level, length of time in business and if only one member of the group voted “no,” the application was not approved. If a member was found to be a member of more than TBC, they would forfeit their TBC membership. Some would say that was also a strict rule. I would agree, AND it worked.

Of the many networking groups around the Greater Phoenix area that I have visited, many of them – in my opinion – could benefit greatly by having more structure and by holding their members accountable for fully participating in the group. In line with our mission of providing quality educational opportunities, a part of each TBC meeting was 10 to 15 minutes of networking training. An organization devoted to it’s members will regularly provide quality networking training either from the leaders or from a networking expert from outside the group.

Large networking events are different. Usually hundreds of people attend and it’s hard to develop loyalty when there are basically no rules. People who attend these large groups are often not trained in the skills necessary to be successful at business networking. I often will visit these events to see who is there and to see if there might be one or two people that I meet that might fit into my network.

Why join only one highly structured networking group? It demonstrates your commitment to the other members and reduces your conflict of interest between referral sources; however, mainly because there is no evidence that joining more than one such group increases your referrals. When you focus all your energy on one networking group rather than many, you will find that the relationship you develop will prosper and the loyalty factor will increase as the relationship grows.

Larry’s NOTE: If your networking group need a kick in the pants, give me a call and we can discuss providing a 25 minute talk that will present a few ideas that might help. 480-205-3694.

BONUS Articles: Shop for a GREAT Networking Group… Then STOP!
Networking Events are a Waste of Time…
Choosing a Networking Group

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Monday, December 8, 2014

Out-of-Meeting Follow Up

Filed under: Follow Up,Networking — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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If you want to rise and outshine your competition and continually advance and forge mutually beneficial business relationships, I strongly recommend that you fulfill the most critical part of networking: Follow Up!

Example: You attend your networking meeting and like almost everyone who attended, you gave your “30-second” connection (elevator speech), listened to the other members give theirs, listened to the speaker, stayed for a few minutes after the meeting and went back to your office. The next week… it’s the same old thing. Attending the the weekly meeting itself and seeing the same people is not enough. Booooring!

NETFollowUPIt’s time to get off your butt and make some serious progress in networking. If you haven’t met with the others in your group “outside” of the weekly meeting you are missing the point! I submit that you cannot really get to know someone and their business unless you “make” time to arrange a productive meeting with them at their office away from the weekly meeting.

Re-connecting with people in your group or shortly after you meet a new member, sends the message that you serious about a relationship, proactive and willing to invest the time and effort to get to know them. Initial contact is great, but you aren’t really networking if the relationship does not continue. Be clear about your intentions for any meeting beforehand so the other party can prepare accordingly.

Always approach follow ups with a philosophy of being of service. Your intention is to discover how best you can help them. The first face-to-face meeting is about further developing your rapport with your new contact. This important face-to-face will help you learn more about them personally and will give you an opportunity to see their business close-up. I recommend that each personal face-to-face at their business be followed by a lunch where you can continue to learn more about them.

This out-of-networking-meeting meeting should be about them – not you. Discuss how you could be of assistance to them. If they want to know more about you, let them ask, but focus on them. You are there to get to know “them” better. Begin with the newest members of your group and continue to arrange meetings with everyone in your group. Ask lots of questions. Really get to know them. Don’t just talk business, get personal. Ask about their family, hobbies, interests and things they like to do.

Be an information seeker. Informational interviewing gives you a great opportunity to gather the kind of information that will forge a closer relationship and will help you to help them better. If during your conversation you are advised to contact someone in particular or to look at a particular resource, make sure you have all information needed to contact that person or find that resource.

Be certain before you leave that you know exactly the kind of business referrals that would be beneficial to them. (Read that sentence again!) Why? Because that is the specific reason you are meeting with them. Remember to be respectful of their company and their time. Never overstay your welcome. Extend an invitation to meet them again at your office. If you work out of your home, meet them there.

Don’t stop there. Continue to build the relationship. If the connection is great, you may want to meet with them socially. It’s all about making great friends and working together to help each other. There are many different ways to stay in touch. the important thing is that you do stay in touch!

This kind of face-to-face follow up also works well when you meet someone new at a major networking event like Networking Phoenix. The larger events usually lack the structure you find in smaller more intimate networking groups. If you are like me, I network with other people outside of my networking group as long as they are not in competition with someone in my group. Loyalty to “one” networking group is very important. I do not recommend being a member of more than one small networking group for that very reason… loyalty.

Reach out to people already in your network and to your peers in the different organizations you’re part of to find out if there is someone you should connect with.

This is how you start to build great relationships and expand your network. To see them only once a week without effective follow up is the snail’s way to networking success. It’s time to get on the fast track!

“Networking can take time and energy if you let it, or it can be integrated into your daily activities with a simple change in mindset to be more effortless. A small, consistent investment of time each week can pay off huge dividends in the future for you and your network.” ~ Lisa Rangel

BONUS Articles: 18 Ways To Follow Up After A Networking Event
Pay Attention to Others!
What to Talk About at the Follow-Up
Call ________ Before It’s Too Late!

Larry’s NOTE: Click the “Follow Up” link in the article index on the right for more articles about Follow Up!”

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Thursday, December 4, 2014

32 (Actually) Interesting Networking Questions You Could Ask Instead

Sabrina Ali, Guest Author

Networking… it’s a dreaded word.

And an even more dreaded act to engage in (at least for most people).

NETQuestionsUnfortunately you only call something “networking” when you don’t like nor look forward to the experience of meeting or seeing people. BUT you have to call it something to make it feel like it wasn’t a total waste of your time.

Right?

But the truth is that networking is an everyday, day-to-day, daily occurrence. Like (hopefully) brushing your teeth.

When networking feels good, it gets called “a great conversation” or “a new connection” or “a lovely experience” or “so good to get to know you better.”

So do what you must in your head to make the necessary re-arrangements – to know networking as a positive force in the world.

And what makes the experience so lovely? (Don’t worry – it’s not a rhetorical question!)

It’s usually because one or both of you wasn’t following a script.

And…

One or both of you more than likely inspired the other to feel authentic.

And…

One or both of you certainly has better things to do with your time and because you do, you make everything you do worth your while and worthwhile for the other person by default.

So…

To help you create more magic moments (because isn’t life better when there’s magic in it?!) between you and another human being, here is a list of 32 questions that are actually interesting to be asked + intriguing to hear the answer to. Click here to view the list!

Sabrina AliCopyright © 2014 – Sabrina Ali. Sabrina is a writer, career counselor, speaker and teacher. She speaks for inspiration and alchemy. She talks about how to shape a career that is a reflection of who you really are and how to work with purpose, creativity and a sense of contribution. She is low-tech, high inspiration, imagination and creativity stirring. View Sabrina’s Website!

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netHQLarry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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