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Saturday, September 26, 2015

Be a Network Volunteer!

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I have long been an advocate of volunteering… especially as it relates to business networking. One of the first steps toward networking your business is to become more visible in the the group and community the group services. It will help connect you with other members who share your passion for networking. By building these trusting relationships with other successful members, you essentially gain publicity for yourself and your business.

One of the smartest moves I ever made was starting my own networking group – The Tulsa Business Connection in 1975. Within 7 months, we had 47 members all in different business classifications. By the end of the year we had 65 members, 45 to 50 of which attended nearly every weekly lunch meeting we had. Dues were $40 per month, not including lunch. No one complained because they are all busy promoting themselves and our group and everyone was actively “looking” for business referrals for other members.

NET-VolunteerAttendance and dues are seldom a problem if everyone is doing their job; bringing at least one business lead every week and if they didn’t 25 cents went into the connection can. At the end of the meeting there was a drawing for those who did bring leads. Whoever’s card was chosen, won the “Connection Can Cash!” What a powerful group. The first year we exchanged nearly $2,000,000 in business leads for our members.

Anyone who had been a TBC member for more than 3 months knew that to volunteer to do something for the group was almost imperative. Those who didn’t volunteer were not that visible and as a result got very few referrals and eventually dropped out. We had many committees with about 5 members each who were responsible for various projects the group had chosen to support. Several were philanthropic. Our most popular committee was in charge of our “Quarterly Connections!” 4 time a year we would plan outside social events just for fun. Nearly member was involved in some kind of group activity.

I taught everyone to reach out to the community. Those who volunteered demonstrated their commitment to our group without concern for personal gain – and that was there too. Volunteering will always present new opportunities to help you spread the word about our group, your products/services and build affinity for our networking brand. Once our new President told me that she was have difficulty trying to do everything that was expected of her. The next meeting I asked for a volunteer to be assistant to the President and 14 hands went up. TBC was the largest, most active and most productive networking group in Tulsa for more than 15 years.

Several times we had special meetings and invited another networking group who was not doing so well to come and visit TBC to see why our group was doing so well. There was a substantial fee if they wanted me or someone deeply involved in our group to visit their group for one quarter to help them get on track and be more productive.

The Tulsa Business Connection established the first “Runaway Hot Line” with Tulsa Youth Services to help parents find their children who ran away. That news made the Tulsa World newspaper, every TV and nearly every radio station in town. We were all over the news and people were calling to join TBC.

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Volunteers quickly learned that they had to invest something into our group in order to get something out of it. Once the members knew the value of volunteering, hardly anyone said no when asked to help out with a group function. Here are a few of the ways they could volunteer:

• Registration Attendant to sign in attendees
• Greeter – This was a great position. You got to meet and greet everyone who attended
• Quarterly Connections – Party & social time – no networking
• Photographer – Photograph our special events
• President’s Assistant
• Printer – Volunteer to print TBC forms, weekly newsletter
• Videographer – Video our special events
• Special Seminar for newbies – once each quarter we would review our bylaws, help member design a “30-Second Connection” and offer tips that help them better network
• Volunteer Recruiters – Members who were assigned to recruit specific people thought to be good for our group
• Event Managers – Helped plan our special events
• Service Providers – Various professional service providers would come to an event and provide services to the attendees as a way to make the events better and showcase their product/service
• Spokesperson/Interviewer – For media interviews –
• Radio Broadcaster/PR – Helped prepare news releases, etc.
• Exit Interviewer – Our bylaws allowed for asking members who just came to the meetings and never offered business referrals to begin to do so (30 day warning) or they were very nicely asked to allow their business classification to be filled by someone else. (This may sound harsh, however, it was one way we kept the group full of savvy networkers and eliminated the leaches).

“Invest time in a cause that you care about. Volunteering puts you directly in touch with people who share the same values and passions – which can be a good foundation for working together or referring one another. Volunteer for an organization that you really care about. You’ll find new contacts and be making the world a better place at the same time. You may even be able to help your favorite charity with your business. Donate consulting time or manage a project pro bono and you’ll reap multiple benefits – new contacts, a project for your portfolio and contributing to a cause you care about.” ~ Ruben Gamez, Founder of Bidsketch.

Network group leaders: Design some ways you can help people in your group to volunteer to help your group. I promise it will make a terrific impact on the group and the attitudes of your members!

BONUS Article: Want to Stand Out in Your Networking Circles? Get Involved!
Volunteer and Become Visible
Community… Not Just a Buzzword!
Does Your Networking Group Have a “Community” Presence?

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Tuesday, September 22, 2015

You Are Networking When…

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You are networking when you strike up a conversation with the person next to you in line, introduce yourself to other parents at your child’s school, happy hour, meet a friend of a friend, fitness/health clubs, fraternity/sorority meetings, catch up with a former co-worker, sitting next to someone at a Diamondbacks baseball game, non-networking events/meetings, picnics, places where you share a common cause, industry conferences, your alumni association, service organizations, or stop to chat with your neighbor.

NET-NetworkingWhenThe best way to make a favorable impression is to find a commonality with the person you’re talking to. The more personable your conversation, the better chance you have of easing into a later conversation about how to help each other business-wise. Look for common interests. When two strangers strike up a conversation, there is always a subtle jostling for position. Resist that urge. Go where the conversation leads.

Be an excellent listener. Put those skills to use. When you strike up a conversation, don’t attempt to launch into an awkward pitch for your business. Discover what others need and go about helping them. If they have a problem, offer to tell them what you would do in their situation and give your ideas away. The more people you meet and talk with, the larger your network and the greater the odds of finding the best customers, partners, employers or employees.

“If someone is making you uncomfortable for any reason – they’re talking way too much about themselves, engaging in over-the-top boasting, or seem sketchy in some way – then listen to your instinct and move along to networking with someone who feels more simpatico. Life’s too short to waste time on people you don’t enjoy.” ~ Kathy Caprino

Opportunities for business networking are everywhere! The professional networker knows this and takes every advantage to network as in the examples above. Just relax. Don’t try to impress. Tell stories and be yourself. Networking is the art and science of building professional relationships, but few of us are naturals at it. It takes practice. Networking is a skill. Skills take time and patience to develop.

EasiestWayThe average networker only networks when they know they have a networking meeting to go to and most are scrambling to come up with a business referral for other networkers on the way to the meeting. These groups can provide you with a shoebox full of business cards and no contacts if you’re not careful. Professionals plan ahead. Others often don’t like to network but think it’s something that they need to do to be successful. Few can actually tell you that they have done any research or attended any networking seminars to learn how to do it correctly.

While average networkers resist being held to an ill-fitting standard, professionals today do indeed need to find a way to muster the energy and courage to network and build a powerful support community. It’s been said that the professional networker can find what they need in their network of support in 3 to 5 phone calls. That’s what I call, “connected!”

If you only think of networking as going to a networking group or event, perhaps it’s time for you to get your creative juices going and actually plan to put networking at the very top of your list of things to do everyday! Remembering to networking can be as easy as posting reminders in your office, on your bathroom mirror, in your car or anyplace that can serve as a reminder.

While you are thinking about it… take a few Post-it® notes and write the word “NETWORK” in big capital letters and post reminders everywhere right now. Even though I network virtually all the time, it’s helpful for me to post occasional reminders that helps keep me focused and keeps business networking at the forefront.

So… Where are the best places to invest your time business networking? Everywhere and all the time!

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, September 18, 2015

How to Choose a Networking Group

Filed under: Choosing a Group,Networking — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Susan Bierly, Guest Author

Joining the right networking group can make or break your networking success. Once you take the “Networking Assessment” ask yourself the million-dollar question… Would you refer your #1 Client or your Mother to the members of the group? If the answer is no, walk away, no… RUN!

Things to consider:

NET-ChooseGroup• The type of companies involved (are they marketing to the same end user you are?)
• The percentage of B2B verses B2C members
• Would you have a sphere if you joined?
• How many people were sitting down before the meeting started? (should be zero)
• Are the infomercials (elevator speeches/30-second connections) professional, informative and timed?
• Do the members ask for something specific during his or her infomercial?
• How many referrals are being passed?
• When passing referrals, was there apparent successor “fluff”? People have a tendency to “ramble” and say how great everyone is when they have no referrals to pass
• How many members are in the group?
• How many members were absent the day you visited?
• Atmosphere – is it welcoming? Do they approach you and introduce themselves?
• Do they ask what you do and have a genuine interest in your answer?
• Was the meeting controlled and professional? Was there disruptive side bar chatter?
• Does the meeting start and end on time?
• Are members there early to network?
• Are there guests?
• Did they have a handout for guests on the sign in table?
• Does the group have a mentoring program?
• Did you walk away with the feeling of “I like these people and I felt comfortable?
• Did the facilitator and the members contact you by e-mail, phone or mail after the meeting?

Larry’s NOTE: There are many things to consider when choosing a networking group. Choose carefully. You will want your investment of time to be worth it. I always want to know if the group has a “community” presence. Use Susan’s suggestions and get more info from the Bonus Articles below.

BONUS Articles: Shop for a GREAT Networking Group… Then STOP!
Choosing a Networking Group
Networks that Fit
Networking Events — Which Event Or Organization Is the Right One for You?
Power Your Connections ~ Give Them Something to Talk About!

SusanBierlyCopyright 2015 – Susan Bierly. Susan Bierly is Co-founder of CORE Networking, President of IMC Water Coolers and is an expert in personal and corporate training on sales and networking. Susan has successfully grown her companies over the past 27 years through networking; referrals and repeat business and has never engaged in paid advertising for any of her businesses. Feel free to reach out to Susan at susan@thecorenetworking.com if she can be of help to you or your organization.

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Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Monday, September 14, 2015

Who is the Most Interesting Person in the Room?

Is it you?

It should be.

The most interesting person in the room is the woman or man who easily commands a wider range of business and networking knowledge. Who confidently moves the conversation forward with a little-known fact of knowledge. It doesn’t necessarily have to be about business. Or someone who illuminates a truth. Or know what the people controlling the ropes and pulleys of the meeting are doing and thinking.

NET-InterestingPersonThe world’s wealthiest and most powerful business leaders find ways to keep score on who’s up, who’s down, and how their ideas, companies and technologies are changing people’s lives. It’s not just about always looking for business referrals.

Networking isn’t all about business, however it is an investment in your future. It’s time for us all to be a perfect example of effective collaboration and entrepreneurial thinking. How can we work closer together to deepen our understanding, improve our communication and connect better to make everyone’s business work better?

Networking provides insights and ideas that can propel both companies and careers. It is an unrivaled source of inspiration, tools, and techniques that are critical to success and survival in today’s business arena. It will sharpen your ability to identify problems, formulate solutions and adapt to and manage change. Your success and survival is no longer a given. Networking helps you stay ahead of the game.

Of course, I must not fail to mention the importance of building relationships with other interesting people in the room. With the right networking group you’ll discover how you can accelerate your visibility and your company’s recognition. You’ll tap the ideas and strategies of other business thought leaders. You will also gain vital intelligence to outflank, outthink and outperform your competition. You will move ahead with purpose and focus.

Another thought about competition. Hear me good. To me, there is no competition. Only collaboration, communication and cooperation. I’ve found that if I worry about the competition, I often become distracted from collaboration, communication and cooperation. It works for me.

So, how do you become the most interesting person in the room. One way is to learn everything you can about the technology of business networking. So many people go to meetings expecting for everyone to give them business referrals and I say… they are focusing on the wrong thing. Building relationships is the key!

KidsQuestionsI spent two and a half hours meeting with someone who is in a position to send me a multitude of business referrals today. Not once did I talk about receiving… only giving. And talking about how we could work together and make what we do together mutually beneficial. She talked. I listened. (It is important to not hog the conversation) And then I talked and she listened. We both asked each other lot of questions. We talked about the each other’s interests, in business and other things. Did I get to know her? Did she get to know me? Absolutely. She and I both were generous with speaking openly about many things. She was brave to speak about the struggle she had when she first started her business. Did we both walk away from that meeting with a promise to work together? I repeat… absolutely. Why struggle to guess what most people might find generically interesting? Ask people what they’ve been up to or what their hobbies are. We both found interests that had nothing to do with work. Then we talked about that.

“To be interesting, be interested.” ~ Dale Carnegie

Ask questions, listen closely, ask more questions. This is the real key to becoming a good conversationalist and also becoming more interesting. Engage people in talking about their passions. Remember you have two ears and one mouth. Use them in this order.

I highly recommend that if you are someone who is only looking for referrals, that you shift your focus on getting to know the people you network with much better then saying, “Hi!” at the meeting. My most effective networking is rarely ever at the meeting. It’s the time I invest with those that I have determined I can assist and who are in a position to to assist me. Together we can be the most interesting people in the room.

Perhaps you now know that it is time well spent to be with people who are “in a position” to provide what you need and who are someone with whom you can feel comfortable with sharing your connections, connections that may be in a position to help them. Those are the people you should want to get to know! They are the movers and the shakers. If they are not the people you are connecting with, you are probably barking up the wrong tree!

BONUS Article: Networking is a Blueprint for Change!

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Thursday, September 10, 2015

Networking is a Blueprint for Change!

Within the concept of networking is a blueprint for change. With change comes new ways of thinking. If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. Change your blueprint… change your business!

There is only one way to keep your career growing. YOU must keep growing. Develop an unshakable, unstoppable mindset that will give you the competitive advantage in your industry. Ask the men and women who network about the personal growth they have experienced. Ask them about how much better they feel about themselves now that they are doing more of what the pros do.

NET-BlueprintIt takes courage to network; do put yourself “out there;” to consistently move toward something better; to become the someone you look up to. The more you network, the more courage you receive. Be courageous and you will discover more courage!

Unless you are committed to doing more than you’ve done before, you will feel some discomfort when becoming involved in networking. This is natural. You will be in the presence of doers. You, who are not doing, may be confronted by this. Thus, you may feel uncomfortable.

People who do more get results! They are actively engaged in activities that feed their enthusiasm for their calling. For them, backward in not an option. They are on “fast forward.” They get things done. They make every minute count when they are networking. They are aware of the “net” result. They know that what you put out to the universe, always comes back to you. They are dedicated to doing good for others.

How many successful people do you know? Network to get to know more. The energy they dedicate to helping others is infectious. Attitude counts! It is often the biggest impediment to productive networking experiences. Listen to their success stories. Adapt their skill sets. Listen for the opportunity that a fresh perspective presents. For me, it’s a lesson in inspiration; inspiring me to be the best I can be.

“Great networkers treat their network like a bank account, considering each connection as a relationship invested. They weigh up its value captured in their ‘balance sheet,’ long before they consider their actions reflected in the ‘P&L.'” ~ Patrick O’Brien

For a horse, one inch farther often wins the race. In networking, you never know when the next contact you make may be the one inch that puts you in the winner’s circle.

Networkers play too! When they play, they have fun. They know that the time they devote to social and recreational activities with family and friends pays off with a sense of having recharged their batteries. After 11 years of networking, my friend, Nancy Siegel (Tulsa, OK) advises: “Know when to stop and recharge. Learn how to say “no” to please yourself instead of “yes” to please others. when you network, network! When you play, play!”

Remember too, the energy level of successful people operates above average because they love who they are and what they do.

Above average people network for above average results. They know a good thing when they see one. They stick with it. They are the above average men and women who have discovered a wonderful contact sport called “networking” and are still making new and exciting personal and business contacts after “all these years.”

BONUS Articles: Networking Requires Accepting Responsibility
Don’t Push! – Pull
7 Keys to Help You Turn Up Your “Burn!”
Blueprint for Change

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Sunday, September 6, 2015

How to Be Unforgettable

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Kathy McAfee, Guest Author

It all started by meeting Beth Pite on an ordinary day. It became quite an extraordinary networking connection. Meeting Beth was and will remain an unforgettable beginning. I will always be grateful to her and the Universe for bringing us together. That’s the magic of networking!

What makes people unforgettable in your mind?

NET-UnforgettableI asked Beth Pite what makes people unforgettable in her mind. She answered thoughtfully with the following perspective:

“There are different kinds of unforgettable. Your question suggests someone who stays with me for decades, which is partly habit, but largely shared history (jokes, memories of escapades and relationships, remembering birthdays with a card, etc.) In your case, it’s the shared history plus your unique energy.

What makes a relatively new person unforgettable is different. It might be a signature style (a guy who always wears bowties, a woman who always wears a hat) or creativity (a man with colorful clothing, a women who always has eye-catching jewelry or shoes.) It might be humor or a slightly off-center way of expressing themselves in presentations and business discussions.

I remember a few specific incidents that make the point. A professor at Wharton stated that a suitable ethical standard for business was not “getting through the day un-indicted.” An expert witness said “I can explain it to you, but I can’t understand it for you.” A client said “If you see a turtle on a fence post, he didn’t get there by himself.” These are all unique and memorable ways of saying things that would otherwise be fairly trite.”

Six Ways to Become Unforgettable

“You care, you dare and you share; this is the unforgettable rule of every true believer and achiever.” ~ Isrealmore Ayivor, author of Daily Drive 365: Positive Thoughts for Positive Living

Always be networking. Be open to the possibilities that anybody can become significant to your life, and you to theirs. Don’t prematurely judge the potential of a human connection. We are all connected in weird and wonderful ways.
Diversify your network, build relationships, and grow your sphere of influence daily.

Help other people. As noted in my book, the spirit of networking is helping others & asking for help. Give comes before Get. Help yourself by helping others. Make it a daily practice of paying it forward by helping strangers as well as people in your network. It will come back to you in wonderful ways!

Stay in touch over time. The goal is to build a relationship, not just a connection. Social media is nice, but it’s not enough. Stand out by doing what other people are reluctant to do: a) write personal cards and letters, 2) make the effort to share a meal; 3) pick up the telephone and let them hear your voice; 4) connect them to other people that can help accelerate their business,career or life. Face time will accelerate any relationship.

“You may like me. You may not like me. But, one thing is for damned sure…you will never forget me.” ~ Peter Cimino, author of The Four Corners- A Sicilian Story

Express your appreciation. Let them know how they impacted your life. Don’t just think about your gratitude, share it. Reach out and remind people how important they are/have been in your life. Share the love with words of affirmation and personal communication.

imagesBring good energy and positivity to every encounter. Nothing stands out like a good attitude. Realistic and optimistic are not mutually exclusive. Don’t blame your personality for your negative thinking or communication ineffectiveness. There are things you can do to shift your energy in more positive directions. (e.g., eat well, rest/sleep well, exercise, hang out with positive people, practice gratitude, and avoid consumption of negative/violent/sensational news reports,movies, media, etc.)

Be the extraordinary person that you were meant to be. Don’t settle for ordinary, average, or good enough. Embody the leader that you strive to be in all that you do and say. Be extraordinary when you are with people, by being fully present. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted with your Smartphone, your email, or your To Do List. Prioritize and invest in your own personal development …until the day that you die. Don’t forget about yourself. After all, you are unforgettable!

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KathyCopyright 2015 – Kathy McAfee. Kathy McAfee is America’s Marketing Motivator and author of the book, “Networking Ahead for Business.” In her role as an Executive Presentation Coach and Motivational Speaker, Kathy helps her clients become the recognized leaders in their field by mastering the arts of high engagement presentations and more effective networking. Learn more at her Website: MarketingMotivator.net and NetworkingAhead.com.

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Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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