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Monday, January 7, 2013

Be a Contributor

Filed under: Contribution,Networking Tip — Larry James @ 7:30 am

You are special. Every human being is incredibly unique. The way you choose to contribute has “you” written all over it. It tells who you are. I saw a poster once that said, “We all contribute in different ways. When we learn to honor the difference, and appreciate the mix, we find harmony.” Contribution enriches your life and the lives of others. Everyone is nourished by contribution.

NetworkingContributionContributing to others is one of the most important principles of networking. Before you think about asking for help from those in your network, you should ask others about their needs and offer to assist them. When you offer to help others, it is important for you to follow up on your promise.

It doesn’t pay to be selfish or self-centered. Only self-centered people reach their level of incompetence. When your energy is self-directed it is easy to lose touch with who you can be for others. Self-centeredness is an energy drain. It will have you only pay attention to yourself. Not good. “Me only” doesn’t work. It causes your focus to be on only you. Contribution is a two-way street.

The famous psychiatrist, Alfred Adler said, “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from such individuals that all human failure springs.”

We are called to share our lives with others. It is important to understand that contribution can be like a candle. Have you ever noticed that a candle loses none of its power by lighting another candle? In fact, as long as a candle burns, there is no limit to the number of other candles it can light. This is because it is the channel for an energy, which comes from a limitless source.

NETleadMake sure you have an understanding of the needs and interests of people in your network so you can provide them with referrals, important information, job and business leads or resources. In order to network effectively and genuinely, you must continuously contribute to others. This builds trust and credibility within your networking circles. It takes time to reach this level, and it is well worth the extra effort.

Share yourself. Do things for people. Surprise someone. The true test of how you feel about yourself is to do something special for someone and make sure they don’t know who did it. A poet once wrote, “The greatest gift is to fill a need unnoticed.” Being of service makes us feel good. Don’t give until it hurts. Give until is feels good. Give until it helps. When I give to you, I experience the gift first. Someone once said, “Flowers leave their fragrance on the hand of the giver.” Look at contribution as a gift; a gift you give and a gift you receive.

You can never be less than who you are when you are willing to give a part of yourself to others to make a difference in their lives.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Saturday, October 27, 2012

What’s Your Brand’s Baker’s Dozen?

Filed under: Contribution,Networking — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Scott Ginsberg, Guest Author

It started out as an insurance policy.

By adding one additional cookie to the order, bakers protected themselves against accidentally short weighting customers, paying severe government fines, losing a hand to an axe, having an ear nailed to their shop door and becoming known around town as a dishonest businessman.

Of course, that was seven hundred years ago.

Now they call it a baker’s dozen because they care.

Because that one extra cookie, that one purposeful, tactile expression of effort, which only rounds out to about eight percent extra dough, is worth giving away to the customer as a thank you for spending their dough on the first twelve.

What’s your brand’s baker’s dozen? What meaningful, memorable and meditated bonus do you offer at the end of every transaction?

It doesn’t have to be about labor and time, just intention and attention.

That’s the only insurance policy your brand needs.

BONUS Article: Give!
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Copyright © 2012 – Scott Ginsberg. Scott Ginsberg is a professional speaker, “the world’s foremost field expert on nametags” and the author of “HELLO my name is Scott” and “The Power of Approachability.” He speaks to companies and associations who want to become UNFORGETTABLE communicators – one conversation at a time. He’s “That Guy with the Name Tag.” Visit his BLOG.

Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. Larry James presents networking seminars nationally and offers Networking coaching; one-on-one or for your Networking Group! His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Saturday, April 14, 2012

BE Contribution!

Filed under: Contribution,Networking Tip — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Don’t just talk about how important contribution is to networking, Be it! Be contribution. Work to become known as someone who is always willing to help others in your network.

Contributing to others is one of the most important principles of networking. Before you think about asking for help from those in your network, you should ask others about their needs and offer to assist them. When you offer to help others, it is important for you to follow up on your promise.

contributeIt doesn’t pay to be selfish or self-centered. Only self-centered people reach their level of incompetence. When your energy is self-directed it is easy to lose touch with who you can be for others. Self-centeredness is an energy drain. It will have you only pay attention to yourself. Not good. “Me only” doesn’t work. It causes your focus to be on only you. Contribution is a two-way street. The famous psychiatrist, Alfred Adler said, “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from such individuals that all human failure springs.”

We are called to share our lives with others. It is important to understand that contribution can be like a candle. Have you ever noticed that a candle loses none of its power by lighting another candle? In fact, as long as a candle burns, there is no limit to the number of other candles it can light. This is because it is the channel for an energy, which comes from a limitless source.

Often, without our even being aware of it, we contribute. A simple word or gesture can serve to bring inspiration or healing to someone else’s life. Our primary responsibility is to keep our own light shining brightly! Brighten the corner where you are.

A burning candle is no less a burning candle after it has shared its flame to light another candle. Never fear that bringing light to the lives of others will deplete your own light. As with the burning candle, the Source of your light is unlimited. You can never be less than who you are when you are willing to give a part of yourself to others to make a difference in their lives. Jesus said, “Ye are the light of the world.”

It is important to remember that whatever you put out to the universe, the universe will put out to you. If you put out a negative attitude, you will attract that which you give out. If you give out good vibrations, you will find people of like mind being attracted to you. A farmer doesn’t plant corn and expect tomatoes. The Bible says it best; “You reap what you sow.”

contribute2Contribute to yourself first. Me first is okay. When you take good care of yourself, you cannot help but take good care of others. Author Cherry Hartman said, “Put yourself first. You can’t be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.”

Contributing to yourself is paramount. It is most conspicuous in its absence. Be good to yourself first. You feel better when you exercise 3 or 4 times weekly for periods of 15 to 20 minutes. You feel better when you do not have to work so hard breathing the smoke from cigarettes. You feel better when you eat the right foods, take vitamins, cut out alcohol and drugs, and drink drinks without caffeine. Get lots of rest and occasionally treat yourself to a relaxing full-body massage. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The first wealth is health.” The ultimate contribution is to yourself. Take care of yourself. You are often your own biggest obstacle. It’s a contribution you must be committed to. . . first.

For you to be able to effectively contribute, you must be able to accept contribution from others. Remember, you can’t give away something you don’t have. If you are not supportable, you will find it difficult to support others. Allow others to make a contribution to you.

“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” – Edith Wharton

Make a contribution to other people. Be giving. Give unto others, as you would have them give unto you. Those who give willingly, get. Share. Make a new commitment, “Help others help themselves.” It is not possible to help someone else. It is possible to help others help themselves. Success is a by-product of contribution.

Make sure you have an understanding of the needs and interests of people in your network so you can provide them with referrals, important information, job and business leads or resources. In order to network effectively and genuinely, you must continuously contribute to others. This builds trust and credibility within your networking circles. It takes time to reach this level, and it is well worth the extra effort.

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Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. From the chapter, “Contribute!” in Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

5 Ways to Contribute to Your Network…

Filed under: Contribution,Networking Tip — Larry James @ 8:00 am

There are many ways to contribute to the people in your network. The goal of networking should be to help other people – to provide value to them – not asking them to help you. It is important to understand their wants and needs. Never ask for favors, for promotion, for advice, or even to meet up for lunch or coffee until you have established a meaningful relationship.

Helping hand shakes another in an agreementEveryone can use help. There are many challenges that we all face as we work to build a successful business. When having a conversation with someone from your networking group, ask open-ended questions instead of questions that can be answered with a “yes” or “no.” A great question is, “Who is your ideal customer and how will I know if someone fits the bill?” This will help to get to the things you can help them with quicker and keeps the conversation flowing. It also demonstrates a genuine interest in them.

Here are the 5 ways that make the most sense:

1. Find out the biggest challenge in their business and discuss ways you might be able to assist them
2. Offer to introduce them to people you have met at the networking event
3. Offer to refer them to people outside of your network who may be able to assist them
4. Offer to send them an article or link to a Website or Blog post that might be of interest
5. Find out what is important to those in your network and do everything you can to fulfill that need

So many people who network are mostly interested in doing their best to get you interested in what they do. This is a major distraction. It usually turns people off and can alienate the people you meet in a hurry.

The key to building great relationships is to give more than you take. Master networkers look for ways to benefit members of their network. Always network with the intention of helping other people, not yourself. Helping others positions yourself as a powerful resource. The people you help will appreciate your efforts and hopefully return the favor.

The best way to participate in networking is to contribute!

BONUS Article: “How Can I Help You?”

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Saturday, July 10, 2010

Contribute!

Filed under: Contribution — Larry James @ 7:00 am

It is important to remember that whatever you put out to the universe, the universe will put out to you. If you put out a negative attitude, you will attract that which you give out. If you give out good vibrations, you will find people of like mind being attracted to you. A farmer doesn’t plant corn and expect tomatoes. The Bible says it best; “You reap what you sow.”

contributeContribute to yourself first. “Me first” is okay. When you take good care of yourself, you cannot help but take good care of others.

Contributing to yourself is paramount. It is most conspicuous in its absence. Be good to yourself first.

Author Cherry Hartman said, “Put yourself first. You can’t be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.”

You feel better when you exercise 3 or 4 times weekly for periods of 15 to 20 minutes. You feel better when you do not have to work so hard breathing the smoke from cigarettes. You feel better when you eat the right foods, take vitamins, cut out alcohol and drugs, and drink drinks without caffeine. Get lots of rest and occasionally treat yourself to a relaxing full-body massage.

You will have better network success when you have a clear mind and put yourself first.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The first wealth is health.” The ultimate contribution is to yourself. Take care of yourself. You are often your own biggest obstacle. It’s a contribution you must be committed to. . . first.

For you to be able to effectively contribute, you must be able to accept contribution from others. Remember, you can’t give away something you don’t have. If you are not supportable, you will find it difficult to support others. Allow others to make a contribution to you.

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. ~ Edith Wharton

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Visit ” Networking HQ!”

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