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Friday, October 17, 2014

It’s Really Okay to “Toot” Your Own Horn…

However, it’s best to learn how to do it with finesse.

Fi·nesse, noun:
1. Extreme delicacy or subtlety in action, performance, skill, discrimination, taste, etc.
2. Skill in handling a difficult or highly sensitive situation; adroit and artful management: exceptional diplomatic finesse.

TOOThornMany of us were taught from childhood that is was not nice to brag or boast about yourself. Bragging about you personally is not what I am talking about. I’m talking about tooting your own horn to exploit your business. Hey! If you don’t toot your own horn – who will?

Well, I give a “toot!” And so do your friends and family and some close business associates, however most of them need a little nudge to do it in a way that might be useful to you in your business. There is a chapter in my book, “Ten Commitments of Networking” called, “Ask For What You Want!

When I asked Master Sales Trainer, Tom Hopkins, if he would care to write something nice about my networking book, he wrote, “This highly thought-provoking book will help anyone determine the areas in their lives needing fine-tuning and get moving on making positive changes!”

Og Mandino, author of “The Greatest Salesman in the World,” wrote, “These wise and powerful guidelines will help you lead the life you deserve.”

If I hadn’t asked? Well, I’m sure you know the answer to that.

But what about you? Do you ask for written testimonials from your customers or clients? If not, why not? Often after making a sale someone will tell us, “Wow! I’m impressed. Your customer service is excellent.” I say, “Strike while the iron is hot!” That’s a really good time to ask them if they would take a few moments to put what they just said in writing (on their own letterhead) for your future customers. Most will say yes.

It’s time to get your courage up. What is the worse thing that could happen? They might say no. If you can’t handle a little rejection now and then, perhaps you should choose another line of work.

Tell people about the good things your business does. Talk about your business strengths and how you can be mutually beneficial to your customers and the community you serve.

If you are called on to make a presentation to a group, write your own introduction. Be sure to include a few talking points that can create a little buzz for you. In other words, toot your own horn. This is often a way that you can do a little bragging and it’s not coming from you. It comes from the person who introduces you.

The truth is, most everyone likes to hear a success story. Speak your own success story in a way that has it be interesting and shows the benefits to all concerned. (People buy benefits, you know!). Be your own buzzmeister!

BONUS Articles:How to Brag About Yourself Without Turning Others Off
Networking: An Opportunity for Shameless Self-Promotion
Sell Yourself. . . NOT Your Services!
The Buzz on Being a Shameless NetShaker!

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Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Networking Relationships Begin With “Hello!”

When I first began to actively network I was sometimes intimidated by and hesitant to talk to the movers and shakers. No longer. I have since discovered that people in networking who know the rules and are very successful are the people you really need to get to know. In fact, some of the most successful people I know have contributed a large part to my success (Mark Victor Hansen, Tom Hopkins, W. Steven Brown, and others).

NetHELLOWhen it comes to meeting new people, one of the biggest obstacles for most people is simply building up the courage to approach a stranger and start a conversation. When you’re around accomplished people, be quick to say, “Hello!” Don’t hold back. Introduce yourself to begin the conversation. Make an observation or compliment. Make small talk. Asking questions exhibits a genuine interest in them. It’s also important to know when to shut up.

We are all coming from the same place. Most find it hard to just walk up to a stranger and begin talking. We get anxious and overthink the situation. At first, we are all at least a little nervous. We all wonder where and how we’ll fit in.

Think about how many opportunities you have allowed to pass because you were too slow to make a move to say, “Hello.” You’ll never know what you missed out on unless you put yourself out there. If this is you, it’s high time you step out of your comfort zone.

When is the best time to approach someone you want to know? The answer is: Within the first 3 seconds you see them. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted.

3SecondRuleHave you heard of “The 3-Second Rule?” Originally this concept appeared in a book about how to pick up women. I have found that it works very well when networking too. The rule is simple: When you see someone interesting to talk to, you have three seconds to walk up and say hello. Wait longer and you’ll either overthink it and screw it up or overthink it and never approach. I’ve been there and done that. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. It’s a very simple rule, and extremely effective.

Not sure what to say? It really doesn’t matter. Anything is better than nothing, because it takes you from being a no-name in a sea of faces to being an actual person with a story who had the courage to say hello. I suggest that you ask lots of questions; about them and their business. Determine if there is anything that you can do to help them.

If it’s someone you’ve always wanted to meet, you’ll at least be able to open by thanking them for their work and how it’s impacted you. The 3-Second Rule isn’t just for people you recognize. Use it to talk to anyone and everyone who looks interesting. In the beginning, apply it to everyone you see. It’s just like warming up for a race or big talk. It helps to build your self-confidence and overcome your social anxiety. Do that by saying hello to anyone you can, especially when there’s nothing at stake.

When networking it’s important to view everyone as friends you haven’t met yet. Then simply say, “Hello!”

Larry’s NOTE: A special “Thank you” to Scott Dimsmore for introducing me to “The 3-Second Rule.”

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Friday, July 25, 2014

How to Make Introductions in 5 Simple Steps

John Corcoran, Guest Author

I want to outline a framework you can use for making introductions on an ongoing basis. Using just five very simple and easy steps, you can make doing introductions a habit, and both you and your connections will benefit.

Step 1: Identify Your High-Value Contacts

Doing introductions can be time consuming, so it’s valuable to focus on people who matter to you. In other words, it’s best to spend your time connecting people who you would like to deepen your relationship with and who are going to greatly benefit from your introductions.

IntroductionsFor me, there are two types of people who automatically go on my personal list of high-value contacts: my clients, and anyone who has been on my podcast. I owe a debt to anyone who has hired me, or given me 30-45 minutes out of their day to be interviewed for my podcast, and therefore I am always trying to think of ways to repay the favor by introducing them to someone else.

Since just about everyone I’ve interviewed on my podcast is kinda a bigger deal than I am, this is a great way to follow up and deepen the relationship after having forged an initial relationship.

Step 2: Be on the Lookout for Introduction Opportunities

The second step is to always be alert for opportunities to make an introduction. Chris Johnson says this doesn’t mean he has to constantly rack his brain for people to introduce, “It’s a reflex. I try hard to remember my network, and remember what they do. I try hard to ask people if there’s any introduction I can make.”

You don’t have to have a complex system. It just takes a little forethought and time. “I don’t have anything like ‘Johnson’s laws of intros,’ says Johnson. “I just try hard to do it once a day.”

In addition, you have to make sure the value in the introduction is reciprocal. If I went around introducing every rabid Jets fan who also happens to love social media to Gary Vaynerchuk, I wouldn’t be giving Gary Vee much value. So it’s better to introduce two people who can provide equal value to one another.

When in doubt, check first to see if your introduction recipients actually want the introduction. They may not. If you don’t check first, you may just create an unwanted, drive-by introduction that burns bridges rather than builds them. The last thing you want is your introduction recipients feeling burdened rather than benefited by the introduction sitting in their inbox, even if it was unintentional.

You wouldn’t stop by a buddy’s house unannounced with someone you want to introduce them to and leave the person sitting on the couch in the living room, so don’t do the same with their inbox.

Step 3: Use Tools to Make Introductions a Regular Habit

Like anything, in order to make a pattern stick, you have to make it a habit.

To make introducing people a habit, I use a couple of simple tools:

A Calendar

One of the most powerful tools for creating any regular habit is the most simple: adding a repeating reminder on your calendar. Give and Take author Grant uses this approach for reconnecting with his “dormant ties” — people who you used to know, but with whom you’ve lost touch. “I added a repeating reminder to my calendar: reconnect with at least one dormant tie each month,” he wrote in The Huffington Post.

A Relationship-Management Program

connecting1I use a CRM program called Contactually for managing relationships, in part because it sends me reminders to follow up with people who I haven’t communicated with in a long time. When I receive these reminders, I then think about someone I can introduce them to. By doing so, I give them something of value and I don’t look like I’m just reconnecting for the purpose of trying to get something out of them.

Step 4: Make the Introduction Brief, Relevant, and Fun

A non-urgent introduction can quickly fall to the bottom of the priority list, especially if the people you are introducing are busy, successful professionals. So you have to explain clearly why your introduction matters.

That’s why I try to make my introductions brief and to the point. I want to be respectful of others’ time, which is why I aim to clearly articulate anything the two people I am introducing have in common.

Be wary when introducing very successful, very busy people who likely are the recipient of many introductions of dubious value. The last thing you want to do is create awkwardness by introducing a very successful and very busy person to someone who provides little value in return.

I used this approach when I introduced Andrew Warner, founder of the video podcast Mixergy, to Susan RoAne, the bestselling author of How to Work a Room.

I had interviewed both Andrew and Susan for my own podcast, and I thought Susan would be a good fit for Mixergy.

Now, I could have very easily talked myself out of making this introduction. After all, Andrew has a team of producers and guest bookers who handle booking his guests. Why would he even need me to make an introduction?

The same could be said for Susan. As a bestselling author and in-demand keynote speaker who specializes in talking about mingling, she is incredibly well-connected.

Who am I to be so presumptuous as to introduce those two?

But even well-connected people don’t know everyone on the planet, and Andrew needs a steady stream of quality guests.

So here was my email to Andrew and his team:

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I turns out my instincts were right on. Not only had Andrew read Susan’s book, but it turns out he was a big fan.

I immediately did an introduction:

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As you can see, I kept the introduction short and made it a little lighthearted.

AoM’s own resident style guru is another expert in the art of the gentlemanly virtual introduction. I wouldn’t be writing for AoM if I hadn’t been the beneficiary of Antonio introducing me to Brett and Kate. Here’s Antonio’s original email:

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Antonio’s email was short, to the point, and relevant. He even went the extra step of reporting that he had read through my free ebook and that it was of high quality. That’s why it was a well-executed introduction.

Step 5: Follow Up Later

Finally, follow up with the people you introduce a few weeks or months later to be sure they connected. Oftentimes people get busy and they simply forget to follow through on the introduction you made.

Introductions may simply get lost, or overlooked. That’s why it’s best to have a system for tracking the introductions you do.

Recently, I followed up on one introduction I had made 18 months ago. It turned out the two guys I had introduced had hit it off so well, they had launched a new marketing consulting business together.

I use a free tool called Intros.to which allows you to track your own introductions when you introduce two people via email. You can simply bcc Intros.to, and the system will track your introductions. It can also send you reminders to follow up with people who you introduced previously.

Society as a whole benefits. Apple computer wouldn’t exist if Bill Fernandez hadn’t introduced Steve Jobs to Steve Wozniak. The Beatles would never have recorded a note if Ivan Vaughan hadn’t introduced Paul McCartney to John Lennon.

And where would we be if someone hadn’t introduced Daryl Hall to John Oates? I don’t know about you, but I can’t go for that. No can do.

BONUS Articles: Make Friends! Make Introductions!
Making the Networking Follow-Up Call
What to Talk About at the Follow-Up
Your Networking Fortune is in Your Follow-Up!

netHQJohnCorcoranCopyright © 2014 – John Corcoran. John Corcoran is a former Clinton White House Writer, creator of SmartBusinessRevolution.com. You can download his free 52-page guide, “How to Increase Your Income in 14 Days By Building Relationships with VIPs, even If You Hate Networking.” John works at The Corcoran Law Firm, Attended University of San Francisco School of Law, University of California, Santa Barbara and lives in Marin County, CA. This article originally appeared on the Art of Manliness Website. To read the complete article, click here.

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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Make Friends! Make Introductions!

Take time to introduce your friends to others in your network. You never know the potential networking opportunities that someone’s experience, support or friendship can provide. It usually happens with the initial introduction.

Introduce2PeopleWhen introducing people to others at network gatherings, make sure your introductions include nice comments about these people. By portraying your friends in a positive manner will help them to appreciate you and feel good about themselves. An introduction doesn’t merely mean informing each person their names. Using someone’s name is a quick way to build rapport. Bringing people together on points of common interest helps them to feel more comfortable when meeting someone for the first time. Providing a brief background to each person is a good idea, because it promotes interactions for future conversations. Keep the conversation light and cheery.

Be sure to give each person enough information that they can see the common bonds they may share, and if possible give them a prompt or two to get them started with their conversation. Offer to help where you can and don’t expect anything in return.

connectingAlways show a genuine interest in other people. Be the host. Don’t be shy. Be an ice breaker. Be generous with networking information. Introduce people with style so that not only will it make the other person look good, but it will also make you look good as well. It will also help you make a lasting, good impression on other people.

I think it’s a good idea to introduce your friend to them by name then add a comment that will help establish rapport and make them feel in sync. When you do it is important to make eye contact, shake hands with people you’re introducing and to always wear your very best smile. A nice smile is the one of the first things another person will remember about you. It says “I am glad to meet you” more than any words. A firm but not too strong handshake shows you are a person worth some attention and adds some emphasis to your smile.

You might say, “Hey, I want to introduce you to my friend Devin. Devin loves to cook Italian food. He makes the best alfredo sauce I’ve ever had. Makes my mouth water every single time I think about it.” Or… “Julie loves jazz concerts like me. I know your bother is in a jazz group. Perhaps you two might like to get together.” In other words your comment doesn’t necessarily have to be about networking. You can also point out what you admire about them. When you can, give each person something to grasp or hang onto about the other.

“Want to call attention to yourself? Pay attention to other people and focus less on you!” ~ Larry James

When you meet someone and know they might be a good connection for someone you just met across the room, help make the introduction.

One of the nicest things you can do is introduce new friends to each other. They will remember you.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Saturday, June 9, 2012

Enter a Conversation with Caution

Filed under: Introductions,Networking — Larry James @ 8:00 am

When I first arrive at a networking event the first thing I do is look for someone new to meet. I introduce myself and try to determine if there is some way I can help them or that we can work together. If they begin their “sales pitch” I quickly excuse myself and move on to someone else. I rarely hang out with the people I know.

Business people standing with hands togetherWhy?

Because your networking goal should be to help others first. Selling comes much later after you have developed a good relationship with them.

If you see a group of several people talking, use caution when approaching them. You may be interrupting an important discussion. It’s smart to come along side of the group, but do not attempt to enter into the discussion until you’ve made eye contact with everyone. It’s important to wait before joining the conversation until you listen and know what they are talking about and determine whether you can contribute something.

If the group doesn’t open up, you should move on. If several people move as if to allow you to become part of the group that’s when I move a little closer to their circle. Andrew Griffiths once said, “When we are in a group we behave a bit like penguins – we will shuffle to let other penguins in and then huddle back together.”

Opening up is usually a signal that you are being invited to become a part of their conversation. If that happens, listen and wait for an appropriate time to share something of value. If you enter a group and start taking over the conversation, the group will disband and you will be left on your own. To barge into a group is rude.

When someone is talking to you, make it a point to look directly at them. Giving them your full attention with your eyes will encourage them to share more with the group and with you. Don’t stare. It’s not a “stare-down” contest. The point is to give them your “full” – that means 100% of your attention.

dontbeboringIt is also important to initiate conversations with people who are standing by themselves. They are usually happy to have someone to talk with. Make small talk. Be creative with your small talk. Never be boring. How can you help them? Be sure to repeat their first name several times to make them feel good and to help you remember it.

Here are 5 questions that will help you keep the conversation going:

1. What do you like most about what you do?
2. You mentioned that you were in [industry]. What got you started in that direction?
3. What are some of your biggest challenges?
4. Where else do you usually network?
5. How can I help you? or How can we help each other?

Take time to communicate with the people you meet. Find out as much as you can about them and if you can’t see a way to help them or to do business together it’s okay to excuse yourself and move on to your next person.

Helping others is the focus. Demonstrate your networking skills by introducing each new person you meet to at least one other person at the event.

BONUS Article: Introducing Yourself With Humor – Make Your Networking Payoff

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Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, January 14, 2011

Introducing Yourself With Humor – Make Your Networking Payoff

Filed under: Guest Author Articles,Introductions,Networking Humor — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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John Kinde, Guest Author

I conduct workshops on Business Networking Power – “How To Introduce Yourself in 60 Seconds for Business Success.” Although the focus of the workshop is on “Getting Attention, Making It Remembered and Making it Sell,” we have a short discussion on using spontaneous humor to brighten your introductions. Humor is a powerful tool to let people know who you are both at formal networking events where you stand before a group to speak, and also at mix-and-mingle networking events.

Here are some thoughts on the subject of introducing yourself with humor:

1. When you go to a formal networking function, especially at a format where you will have an allotted timeframe to introduce yourself to the group, plan and prepare your introduction before you arrive at the event. This will give you the time and confidence to relax and LISTEN to the introductions of other people. If you want to use spontaneous and observational humor in your introduction, you must pay attention to what is happening and what is being said around you. This is difficult to do if you are preoccupied with the basics of your own introduction. You prepare in advance so you can truly be present. Your most powerful humor will come from observations in the present moment.

2. Look for connections and twists with what other people do for a living and what you do. If you are unable to come up with a direct connection, maybe you can just fabricate one. I was at a networking meeting with someone who owned a business called Melissa’s Puppy Tub. She explained that you could bring your dog to her establishment and she would help you give it a bath. I opened my introduction with “Hi, I am the owner of John’s People Tub. If you know someone who needs a bath, give me a call.” Silly. Funny. Got their attention. Then I continued with my introduction. One of the keys is breaking people’s preoccupation so that they focus their attention on you, remember you, and talk about you afterwards.

LOL3. If someone says something funny during their introduction, it is an opportunity for you to piggyback on that laugh by weaving the theme of their funny line into your introduction by repeating or twisting the humor they used. Keep your radar tuned for group laughter. What was said or done to make them laugh? How can you link that to your own introduction?

4. Don’t be afraid to exaggerate. It’s usually a safe form of humor.

5. Don’t be afraid to look silly. Let your hair down. The rewards are great. I remember wearing fake teeth and a hair-hat to a networking meeting. I felt the butterflies. It was a bit out of my comfort zone and I hadn’t done it before. You need to work past that and take a few chances. In the long run it will be worth it. And it will be a learning experience too.

6. If they don’t laugh, pretend that you never expected them to. If you thought something would be funny and the audience does not, it’s your secret. It’s not a big deal.

7. If you are really courageous, sing or rap. It will almost always be a sure laugh. Here is a tip from improv comedy. If you are not a singer, then sing loud. The key is your commitment. If you are committed to the performance, the audience will love you. And they will remember you. And they will be alert the next time you stand to make an introduction.

8. In mix-and-mingle networking, consider having an introduction partner work the room with you. It’s sometimes easier for someone to use a humor line about you as they introduce you. Or sometimes it works well for them to set up a humorous line for you as they introduce you. You then follow the humor line with your punchline.

9. Wear something humorous. People love my denim shirt covered with cartoon characters. Wear a funny name badge. Carry a small pocket-magic trick. The possibilities are endless. Look for something that makes a great ice breaker and conversation starter.

10. Related articles. The keys to observational humor are Preparation, Observation, Courage and Practice. Check the article “Using Spontaneous and Observational Humor.” Another related article is “Why Spontaneous Humor is Powerful.”

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Copyright © 2011 – John Kinde. Reprinted with permission. John Kinde is a Humor Specialist. Sign up for his Humor skills newsletter. Visit his Website and BLOG.

Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Coach. Larry James presents networking seminars nationally and offers Networking coaching; one-on-one or for your Networking Group! His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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