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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Reinvent Yourself!

Many people who talk about reinventing yourself are talking about reinventing your business. I’d like to point out that the biggest percentage of those who come to me with a business problem do, in fact, need to reinvent their business, but first they fail to see that they need to reinvent themselves from the inside out first.

One of the most powerful and challenging crossroads is where personal and business sometimes collides. When your business is not working like you know it should, it’s time to take an honest look at yourself instead of blaming the market, your spouse, your boss, etc. Problems at home? Start there if you want business to work better. You’ve heard it before and I will say it again, your overall attitude about how your life is going has an enormous effect on how your business progresses.

NET-ReInventReinvention is easier said than done! Reinventing yourself can be exciting and scary and seldom ever smooth, but rewarding beyond what you can imagine.

“What would it be like to start living the life you’d love to live, and becoming the person who belongs in that life?” ~ Sharon Good

Most people just need a swift kick in the pants to get their attention. To be a driving force in business, you must first determine what it takes to propel your potential forward. That’s you. Not your business. There are so many things in our personal lives that affect nearly every aspect of the business side of things. Getting those things under control in your personal life gives you more choices and more control over your business interests.

For example: I spoke recently to a friend who was having trouble following up with clients who had already shown an interest in her business. To me, that’s a transaction that is about to be made. When I asked her what made her feel that way, she said she could never be sure how they were going to react or what they might say, etc., etc. “I feel like I am soliciting.” That’s because when you are selling your product or service, you are soliciting their business. Realizing that you cannot predict or control what others might say or do, you only need to move forward and follow-up regardless. A lack of effective follow-up is, in my opinion, one of the biggest mistakes salespeople make.

It is the possibility of failure – the anticipation of failure – that paralyses action and becomes the primary reason for failure and ineffective problem solving. The real problem is working past the fear and accepting that for you to make the sale, you have to ask for the order! Time to muster up some courage. True courage isn’t about not feeling fear; it’s about feeling fear and doing what needs to be done in spite what or how you feel.

When you have your act together in your personal life, you can very quickly begin to realize that you can maximize the benefits of what you have learned because the path you take to complete recovery affects the direction your business will grow.

Remember, we are talking about reinventing yourself from the “inside out” first. When you do that you begin to make some noise in business that will arouse interest in what you are doing business wise. You will notice small increments of positive change that can often baffle your competition. You feel better about yourself. You pay closer attention to your customers and clients and your business begins to blossom. It recharges your creativity. You let go of fear or anything else that keeps you stuck which creates a space for the unknown to work its magic. Staying stuck dims your sparkle. You discover new ways of being, sometimes on your own and often with a coach.

“Anger and negative emotions of all kinds are dependent upon blame for their very existence. As soon as you stop blaming other people for what has happened and take responsibility for the future, your negative emotions cease, your mind becomes calm and clear, and you begin to make better decisions.” ~ Brian Tracy

butterflyTake a break and get your life together! You are sure to emerge all charged up and ready for whatever is next.

Every person faces the challenges of quickly moving from what they are now to what they need to become to be competitive. Focusing on getting your personal act together can accelerate change, the single most important strategic weapon for business success.

I know from personal experience that when people and new ideas all come together, business can move further, faster. The time you invest in your own personal growth goes from a cost of doing business to something that can transform your entire business perspective.

Your company’s greatest strategic resource is you. To move up in the world you must make sure that your company sees progress in you and that not only will you do a better job for them, but you will empower others along the way and even surpass their expectations.

Sometimes your eureka moment is when you give up a stance – “I can do this by myself. I don’t need any help!” – and try something new like giving up having to be right! We often struggle with limiting beliefs or stories about ourselves that hold us back from trying new things. It’s important to take control of who we will become or risk never reaching our full potential.

You have the power to solve whatever challenges you are facing. Believe me. You do. And… you may need to ask for help! There is no shame is asking for assistance when you need it. Every business person should have several close friends, confidents, that they can go to for help. Having that kind of network of support is important to put together before you need it.

Things may happen around you and things may happen to you, but the only things that really count are the things that happen within you.

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Thursday, September 10, 2015

Networking is a Blueprint for Change!

Within the concept of networking is a blueprint for change. With change comes new ways of thinking. If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. Change your blueprint… change your business!

There is only one way to keep your career growing. YOU must keep growing. Develop an unshakable, unstoppable mindset that will give you the competitive advantage in your industry. Ask the men and women who network about the personal growth they have experienced. Ask them about how much better they feel about themselves now that they are doing more of what the pros do.

NET-BlueprintIt takes courage to network; do put yourself “out there;” to consistently move toward something better; to become the someone you look up to. The more you network, the more courage you receive. Be courageous and you will discover more courage!

Unless you are committed to doing more than you’ve done before, you will feel some discomfort when becoming involved in networking. This is natural. You will be in the presence of doers. You, who are not doing, may be confronted by this. Thus, you may feel uncomfortable.

People who do more get results! They are actively engaged in activities that feed their enthusiasm for their calling. For them, backward in not an option. They are on “fast forward.” They get things done. They make every minute count when they are networking. They are aware of the “net” result. They know that what you put out to the universe, always comes back to you. They are dedicated to doing good for others.

How many successful people do you know? Network to get to know more. The energy they dedicate to helping others is infectious. Attitude counts! It is often the biggest impediment to productive networking experiences. Listen to their success stories. Adapt their skill sets. Listen for the opportunity that a fresh perspective presents. For me, it’s a lesson in inspiration; inspiring me to be the best I can be.

“Great networkers treat their network like a bank account, considering each connection as a relationship invested. They weigh up its value captured in their ‘balance sheet,’ long before they consider their actions reflected in the ‘P&L.'” ~ Patrick O’Brien

For a horse, one inch farther often wins the race. In networking, you never know when the next contact you make may be the one inch that puts you in the winner’s circle.

Networkers play too! When they play, they have fun. They know that the time they devote to social and recreational activities with family and friends pays off with a sense of having recharged their batteries. After 11 years of networking, my friend, Nancy Siegel (Tulsa, OK) advises: “Know when to stop and recharge. Learn how to say “no” to please yourself instead of “yes” to please others. when you network, network! When you play, play!”

Remember too, the energy level of successful people operates above average because they love who they are and what they do.

Above average people network for above average results. They know a good thing when they see one. They stick with it. They are the above average men and women who have discovered a wonderful contact sport called “networking” and are still making new and exciting personal and business contacts after “all these years.”

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Sunday, June 14, 2015

Surround Yourself With “Givers!”

What is a “Giver?” Givers are people who seek out opportunities to help people they respect and appreciate without expecting anything in return. They bring out the best in others. Surrounding yourself with good and positive people will always help lift you up even when you are having a rough time and feel that you can’t do it yourself.

NETGiverORtakerUnfortunately givers are a relatively rare breed. They tilt reciprocity in the other direction, preferring to give more than they get and they don’t keep score. They put the good of others above their own ego.

Takers, on the other hand, have a distinctive signature: they like to get more than they give. It’s all about them. They – nearly always – put their own interests ahead of others’ needs.

“If you’re a giver, then you build quality relationships, and with those relationships you’re exposed to opportunity over the long term,” Adam Grant told Business Insider last year. “You actually increase your own luck so far as you contribute things to other people.”

Networking success doesn’t depend on talent or hard work alone. It also depends on how we interact with people.

While I am in full support of providing value and helping people who are struggling, I fundamentally will not allow people in my network to be exposed to people who are negative and have the potential to bring them down. It’s insidious, and it spreads through the network like wildfire.

I prefer to surround myself with the type of people who give me energy and keep the ones that require energy from me at a safe distance. I love networkers who are energy givers, not takers. They exude energy and you benefit from just being around them. They have your back and cheer you on. They are your network of support, your advocates. These are the people I intend to have a long term, and in many cases lifelong relationship with. The more you surround yourself with these type of people, the more you’ll want to help others. Helping others is what business networking is really all about.

Networking is… using your creative talents to help others achieve their goals as you cultivate a network of people strategically positioned to support you in your goals… expecting nothing in return! ~ Larry James

giveI call the energy takers, emotional vampires. Many are chronic complainers. They can suck the life out of you and a networking meeting like no one else. Deliberately shed those people from your life as quickly as possible. We don’t have time in our lives for those people who don’t believe in us (or themselves), who don’t want to support us, who don’t want to help us grow.

Who should you be adding to your network in the first place? Invite generous people from a wide variety of businesses. Prioritize personality over perceived “usefulness. Think of Santa Claus. He made it because he is a giver! 😉

Do what you can to connect with people who are interesting, and don’t waste time with those who don’t mesh with your personality.

Here is an excerpt from the book “Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success” ~ Over the past three decades, the esteemed psychologist Shalom Schwartz has studied the values and guiding principles that matter to people in different cultures around the world. One of his studies surveyed reasonably representative samples of thousands of adults in Australia, Chile, Finland, France, Germany, Israel, Malaysia, the Netherlands, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, and the United States. He translated his survey into a dozen languages, and asked respondents to rate the importance
of different values. Here are a few examples:

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List 1

• Wealth (money, material possessions)
• Power (dominance, control over others)
• Pleasure (enjoying life)
• Winning (doing better than others)

List 2

• Helpfulness (working for the well-being of others)
• Responsibility (being dependable)
• Social justice (caring for the disadvantaged)
• Compassion (responding to the needs of others)

Takers favor the values in List 1, whereas givers prioritize the values in List 2.

“Surround yourselves with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” ~ Author Unknown

If your networking group does not consist mostly of people who are willing to give… I encourage you to find another group who does or start your own group. Starting over is never easy… and it may be worth it. People in your network should leave you more energized. Look for people like that. You will always find that givers ascend from the bottom to the top of the success ladder.

FACT: You’re only as good as who you surround yourself with!

Are you a taker or an awesome “giver?”

BONUS Articles: Give!
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netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Sunday, November 30, 2014

How To Win People Over Without Manipulation

Marie Forleo on “MarieTV” interviews my good friend, Bob Burg, a well known speaker, writer and consultant, about his book, “Adversaries into Allies.” They talk about 5 ways to turn adversaries into powerful allies – no manipulation needed.

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In this interview, Bob talks about how business people focus too much of themselves instead of other people, how to start controlling your emotions in business situations, how to engage with people who have different person beliefs and more.

Many people tend to think about competitors as enemies or adversaries. According to Bob Burg it’s more useful and practical to visualize competitors as your allies.

“From time to time there may be situations where a customer would be better served by buying from a competitor than from you,” Burg explains. “If your true goal is to help your customers, that competitor just becomes another way you can be of service.”

Networkers may want to listen to the part about persuasion vs. manipulation. I find, much too often, networkers who tend to manipulate others to buy their goods or services. Some have not yet learned that manipulation doesn’t work. They often close doors that, with a little tact, could have opened up incredible opportunities. It’s much better to learn how to influence and persuade.

While this approach [manipulation] might at times bring us short-term results, it leaves people with a bad feeling about themselves and about us. At that point, our relationship with the person is weakened and our influence dramatically decreased. I particularly like with Bob talks about how you view adversaries — are they really your adversary? There is a better way!

The video is a 31 minute program. If you don’t have time to listen now, bookmark this page and come back when you can really listen. I’ve known Bob Burg for many years. He and I share an great interest in teaching and training the higher principles of business networking. Bob is also the coauthor of The Go-Giver, Go-Givers Sell More, It’s Not About You and (one of my favorites) Endless Referrals. As a networker, all of these books belong in you business library.

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Copyright © 2014 – Bob Burg & Marie Forleo. Bob Burg is author of “Endless Referrals: Network Your Everyday Contacts Into Sales” and “The Go-Giver.” Four of Bob’s books have combined to sell over 1,500,000 copies. Visit Bob’s BLOG.

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Saturday, September 27, 2014

It’s the Simple Stuff That Makes a Difference!

Are you “willing” to be more successful at networking?

Straight talk from my friend, Larry Winget (Video: 4:29). Pay attention to the words. Let them ignite a fire within you to do and be the best you can be.

Something very basic needs to change before you can begin to see real improvements in your networking techniques and results from your networking efforts.

Now you know that you are able to be more successful at networking. Are you ready and willing to reach out, learn more about it and then DO whatever it takes?

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Monday, September 15, 2014

Are You Letting Hurtful Words Sabotage Your Success?

Michael Hyatt, Guest Author

We all know our words are powerful. We can slice someone to pieces with just a few syllables. That’s bad enough, but what happens when we turn that power on ourselves?

As a young man, the writer Peter Leonard showed a short story to his famous father, novelist Elmore Leonard. Instead of encouraging his son, Elmore Leonard wrote a lengthy critique saying his characters were flat and lifeless.

NETsabotage“I didn’t write another word of fiction for 27 years,” Peter recalled. But as sad as that story is, we do the same thing to ourselves, don’t we?

How many potential writers, artists, athletes, speakers, and performers have chopped themselves off at the knees with self-criticism?

Not long ago, I was playing golf with a friend. Every time he hit a bad shot, he berated himself. “Ugh,” he said when he really duffed one, “I’m such an idiot. I never hit it straight.”

What do you think that did for his game? Exactly! It got worse the longer we played. It got so bad in fact, I started paying more attention to his words than the game. They were:

Accusatory: “You can’t hit anything!”
Abusive: “You idiot!”
Self-defeating: “I knew I was going miss that.”

Thinking about the game now, I’m stuck on this question, and I wish I had stopped things long enough to ask my friend: “Would you ever talk like that to one of your children?”

Maybe some, like Peter Leonard’s father, would. But we usually strive to protect our kids. We recognize that words like that are harmful. So why don’t we protect ourselves the same way?

Some self-criticism is useful. But accusatory, abusive, and self-defeating criticism is useless and destructive. If we wouldn’t say it to our kids, it’s best to steer clear of saying it to ourselves.

Proverbs says that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Our language reveals our thinking, and if it’s the deadly kind, we need to change the way we address ourselves.

There are some pretty deep psychological and spiritual reasons for this, but it also affects practical questions of accomplishing our goals. Our words can set us up to fail if we’re not careful.

Here are three steps I’ve found helpful in my own life for controlling my words:

1. I record disempowering words and sentences I catch myself using. Awareness is crucial to controlling our words. Whenever I catch myself saying something negative, I make a note of it. If there’s a pattern, I can address it.

2. I craft words and sentences to use in place of negative ones. We all know the best way to eliminate a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. It’s the same here. When I default to a negative thought, I now have phrases and affirmations I can use instead. It makes a huge difference.

3. I ask an accountability partner to call me on it. I felt odd calling my friend on his words when we were playing. I was’t invited to. Instead of letting that stop someone in my life, I’ve let certain people know I want them to hold me accountable for my words. Sometimes it hurts, but it’s worth it.

Our success is too important to allow hurtful words—especially our own—to derail us. We have to learn how to do for ourselves what Elmore Leonard was unable in that instance to do for his son: Use the power of words to encourage and give life.

Language shapes our perception of reality. It’s a powerful tool we can use for good or bad. It only makes sense that we would give ourselves the best advantage imaginable with the words we use.

MichaelHyattCopyright © 2014 – Michael Hyatt. Michael Hyatt, one of the top business bloggers in the world, provides down-to-earth guidance for building and expanding a powerful platform. Michael is the former Chairman and CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers, the seventh largest trade book publishing company in the U.S. I have worked in the book publishing industry for most of my career. He is the author of Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World (Thomas Nelson). It is a New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestseller. Recently, Forbes magazine named me one of the “Top 10 Online Marketing Experts To Follow In 2014.” Visit Michael’s Blog @ http://MichaelHyatt.com/

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Thursday, July 18, 2013

What (or Who) is Your Best Networking Asset?

1. You!
2. Your Network

That’s how I see it… and in that order. For you to be your best asset you really have to be at the top of your game. Great networkers are alway analyzing how they are doing and how others in their network are reacting to what they do. They have an obsession with learning new techniques, unique ways to introduce themselves and effective ways to follow-up. They know that business networking is not just about getting leads but being of service to others. They know how best to mingle… a skill that is admired by many but mastered by few.

assetNo one can build a successful business alone. Great networkers don’t let personal fears get in the way of forming new relationships. This gives them leverage. They focus on the few rather than the many. In other words, they know it’s generally preferable to have fewer high-quality relationships than hundreds of low-quality relationships. That’s smart!

“Remember, you are your best asset! You need to invest in yourself – get enough sleep, exercise, eat healthy meals, expand your mind, attend programs or courses, develop new skills, get expert help, hire a coach. It’s important to invest in your ability to succeed. After all how can you contribute to others if you’re not in top form?” ~ Sue Clement

Master networkers reek with enthusiasm. They maintain a positive attitude most of the time. They know how to strut their stuff. They are shameless self-promoters and have learned how do it with finesse.

When they are positive, they are like a magnet; people want to be around them and will send their friends, family and associates to them. They are trustworthy – one of the main keys that cause networkers to put their personal and professional reputations on the line by referring them.

People who are good at networking are never formally off duty. They don’t just network at meetings. They network 24/7. They are opportunity seekers and find opportunity when others let it pass them by. Helping others in their network is one of their highest priorities. They are keep their eyes and ears open for opportunities to advance other people’s interests, not just their own. They hang out with everyone in the group. They are not be afraid to talk to strangers and make friends. They enjoy and communicate well with everyone. They don’t show favorites.

Smart networkers never fall into the trap of spending all your time networking. Since they know that their best networking asset it them, they place taking care of themselves high on their priority list. They know that balance is another key to success. They spend time keeping physically, mentally and spiritually fit.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Wednesday, March 20, 2013

How to Be a Red Ferrari in a Sea of Silver Cars

Do you have the “WoW” factor suitable for business networking? If you want to be noticed, you need to be different; you need to stand out in the networking crowd. Networking is less about meeting new people than having them remember you after you have told them who you are. It’s not just about making a great first impression, it’s about making a “lasting” impression.

Your assignment – if you choose to accept it – is to become a red Ferrari in a Sea of silver cars!

red-ferrariYou have to bring sizzle to the table. Be bold. Turn up the charm. Take a stand for who you are and what you represent. Don’t use buzz words or jargon. Plain English isn’t boring. It’s clear. It’s precise. Be clear.

Effective networkers are less concerned about what they might “get” in return for attending an event. They focus on helping others first! If you are more concerned about your ROI (return on investment) then you are missing the point. Getting yourself noticed expands your credibility and puts you in a better position to be a resource for assisting others. Networking is about helping others. Always ask, “How can I help you?

Professional networkers name names. When you meet someone, say your full name loud and clear, and try to use word association. I make it easy for them by saying, “Hi Joni (got her name from her name tag), I’m Larry James, the guy with two first names.” I’ve had people I’ve met track me down because they make the connection with “names” and “James.” Some get it wrong and call me Jim or James. I’m okay with that because I know they are trying to remember. When someone tells you his or her name, repeat it in the conversation as soon as possible. It demonstrates that you’re interested and it helps you to remember their name.

“First impressions are critical. When you stand out in the crowd, your status is elevated, you attract people to you, and you begin relationships in the way that ultimately increases the likelihood of people buying from you, hiring you, and refering to you.” ~ Larina Kase, PsyD.

Make a dazzling 30-second connection! Making your introduction all about you is dull and boring. Yawn. Ho-hum. Change it up. Insert humor (if it’s really funny!). An offbeat but memorable “elevator pitch” will help you stand out in the crowd. Beyond just giving a run-down of what you do in your 30-second connection, you should talk about something that makes you stand out or that might make someone interested enough to learn more about you. Your job title, e.g., “I’m a life coach” or “I’m a Realtor®,” will not set you apart from your competition or get you remembered! You must learn to captivate them with your words. Set yourself apart. Be the only person like yourself in the room!

Be well-dressed. The first thing that they will notice is your physical appearance. Clothes reflect yourself and your brand.

Engage others. We often evaluate people based on who they know. Instead of thinking about who you want to meet, think of who others want to meet and be their connector. This will assist you in becoming a powerful resource to others.

Be unique. Be sure you keep your word. No news spreads faster than the fact that you may be presenting yourself in a less than honest way. Just because you are unique does not mean that you are useful. Stand and deliver. No hype or stretching the truth. No telling half truths or misrepresenting facts in any way. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Speak only the truth. If you want respect, you must earn it!

Confidently share who you are with others. Be authentic. Push the envelope. People will be impressed with someone who is passionate about what they do. Amateurs tend to talk more than they listen. Don’t be a chatterbox! In networking, you should take the time to listen as much as you take the time to speak. Good relationships are rarely built when only one person dominates the conversation. Go back and forth. Ask good questions that do not require a yes or no answer. “Where else do you network?”

Whenever possible seek to be the speaker. When you have an opportunity to present yourself at a networking event or meeting, never let their minds wander while you are speaking. Be interesting. And for goodness sake, speak up. Pump up the volume. Face the people you are talking to. If you are holding a microphone hold it about 2 inches from your mouth and speak “clearly.” It is frustrating to try to get excited about someone who mumbles. If you want people to hear what you say you need to speak loud enough so everyone can hear you. Keep your listeners on track with short phrases like: “Let me explain why.” “And now comes the best part.” “Not only that…”

Stand tall, shoulders back, open posture, eye contact, and wear your best smile. Never fidget, sway or shift your weight repeatedly, jiggle change in your pocket, tap your foot, or scan around the room. Don’t talk all the time about your product, your service, your business. Because nobody’s that interested. Focus on which problems you can solve for them. How can your business provide a solution for what’s ailing them. Where is their pain? How can you fix it?

panel discussionNever insult your listener’s intelligence by stating the obvious. When everyone knows you are a Realtor, say it no more. It’s time to give them the latest info on the market or offer a tip about preparing their home for sale that blends with your marketing efforts. Talking only about your products bores your listeners. Talking about their problems grabs their attention. Talk about the hassle you prevent; the headaches you cure; and the glitches you can help them avoid. Don’t be clever. Be clear. No gobbledygook.

Discover ways to let others know you are there. You need every edge you can get. Always have some small bit of information to pass along that will help others. Share an article or a link to a Website you think they might like; one that may help them promote their business or introduces them to a new social media idea.

“Make a list of exciting things you can share with others throughout the event – like interesting clients or projects you’re working on or the fantastic book you just read. You don’t want to throw all of them out rapid-fire to everyone you meet, but having a few interesting points prepped will give you some talking points as your conversations flow organically.” ~ Susan Blond, The Daily Muse

Panel discussions are a great way to be in front of the people who count. Seize the moment to be on one. Know what you are going to say. Or, when listening to a panel discussion, stand tall, introduce yourself confidently, and ask a question of one of the panelists.

Never use profanity. Profanity grabs attention, but for the wrong reason. Be smart.

Don’t brag. If you’ve had many years of specialised experience or have won a prestigious industry award of excellence say so with humility. Go slow. Think before you speak. Be prepared. This “no brag” idea takes some practice. Consult with your closest friends in your network to get some ideas. Asking the advice of others also calls attention to yourself.

Be a souped-up Ferrari. Go faster, make more noise, stand out, and attract attention in a polished sort of way! Now, when someone at a networking event asks you who you are, you can proudly proclaim, “I’m a Red Ferrari!”

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Thursday, January 3, 2013

Networking Requires Accepting Responsibility

To be responsible has been defined as “involving personal accountability;” “being the source or cause of something;” and “able to be trusted or depended upon;” “reliable.”

coveyWhat do you suppose would happen if you made a commitment to be totally accountable to yourself for every aspect of your life? What would happen if you accepted the fact that you are the source and the cause of everything you do? What if you were able to be trusted and depended upon? What if you were absolutely reliable? What if you were count-on-able? Would this make a difference in your business, in your relationships, in your life? How would it make a difference? Think about it. This is a serious commitment, isn’t it? It is one you should consider.

Most everyone would agree that on the surface, you are honest, trustworthy, count-on-able, and reliable. You try hard to project that kind of image and yet perhaps life doesn’t seem to be working for you like you think it should. If you are lying to yourself; if, deep inside, you know integrity is lacking, then quit being a phony, and do something about it. Where is your commitment to be true to yourself? Where is your commitment to total integrity?

We are talking about the kind of commitment that you stand on. One that becomes a part of who you are. There can be no wavering in this commitment. Your actions demonstrate your commitment. From this kind of commitment you gain strength, support and power.

Be honest with yourself. Only when you are completely honest with yourself, can you be completely honest with other people. What’s your integrity level? Integrity has been defined as “the quality or state of being complete; unbroken condition; wholeness; entirety.” When you have integrity, you can have anything you want. Integrity allows you to live life at its fullest. Integrity isn’t about being good or bad. It’s about keeping your word to yourself only because you said you would. Integrity is living your life as your word, like your life depends on it. It does, you know. The foundation of power is integrity. There is power in having personal integrity.

Sometimes we have a tendency to try to pull one over on life; to lie to ourselves; to not totally tell the truth to others; to slide by; to cut corners; to withhold; to not give our all in our relationships with our family and friends and your networking support system; to sleaze-out on our promises; to coast; to not follow-up; to make excuses. There are only “results” or “reasons why.” The reasons why are called excuses. Excuses rob us of accomplishment.

NeverFailFollowUpResponsibility is two words. Response and ability. Think about it. How do you rate your ability to respond? What is your response ability? Choose a response that will empower you. Responses that come from anger and resentment disempowerment you! If you consistently find yourself responding in this way, you can use some work in this area.

Accept responsibility for a bright future. If things aren’t happening for you the way you want them to, you must accept responsibility that you may be spending too much time thinking about what you don’t want. You can’t win if you are always thinking about losing. Change your thinking, change your behavior and you change your life! What gets your total concentration gets you. Give up worrying about your circumstance and do something about it.

When you network with others, you have a responsibility to always be operating at your highest level. You consistently look for business referrals because you know it’s expected. You acknowledge that you must give referrals if you ever expect to receive any. You request one-on-one meetings with people in your network that you would like to know better. You follow-up immediately on the business leads that you do receive because you know that a lack of immediate follow-up is one of the biggest mistakes people in networking and salespeople in general make.

If you want business networking to pay off big for you, you must accept responsibility to be accountable to yourself for your own success. All it takes is a decision to stay on top of the game; to make yourself some new promises to yourself that from now on you are in it to win it; that you will do whatever it takes to make networking work better than it ever has. And you know that it is only and always up to you.

Do you have what it takes? What are you willing to do differently? Can you do that for yourself?

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Sunday, November 4, 2012

Feeling Like A Fraud? Stop Self Sabotage With This Unexpected Technique!

Filed under: Networking,Personal Growth,Video — Larry James @ 8:30 am

In my private conversations with a few networkers recently, several guys and one women admitted to me privately that they felt like a fraud. Nothing seemed to be going right for them. One said that he had been asked to be a mentor to someone in his group but didn’t feel like he knew enough to be a mentor. He is looked up to by everyone in his group, is a very successful salesman but his self-image kept him from offering assistance because he felt like a fraud. How sad.

It doesn’t matter how much experience you have, or how spiritual you are. If you’re putting yourself out there in any way, shape or form — there’s a high likelihood you’ll feel the fear of “not being good enough.”

Many of us make the mistake of believing we need to overcome our fear and get rid of our negative thoughts in order to be successful.

But that’s not true at all!

The real trick is to learning how to make our fears powerless. Click play for Marie Forleo’s simple, but highly effective strategy that will help you cure your “fraud factor” fear once and for all.

marieVideo Copyright © 2012 – Marie Forleo. Marie Forleo. Marie Forleo is a marketing and lifestyle expert who inspires countless individuals to live Rich, Happy & Hot™. She reaches over 90,000 readers in 188 countries worldwide with her weekly videos and newsletter, and leads dynamic training programs that teach individuals to succeed in business and life. Visit Marie’s Website!

netHQLarry James presents networking seminars nationally and offers Networking coaching; one-on-one or for your Networking Group! Invite Larry James to speak to your group! His latest book is, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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