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Thursday, November 7, 2013

How Big is Your Carrot?

You could probably write a book about all the creative things you’ve done to avoid making the decisions you are afraid to make. I believe it all gets back to Commitment #1, “Blueprint Your Life!” – in other words… set some networking goals.

BIGcarrotIf the carrot is big enough, if it looks good when you close your eyes and visualize it, if have a burning passion about it and if it is good for all concerned, then why wouldn’t you want to put yourself “out there” and do what needs to be done? Concentrate on the important and postpone the trivial. The reason things may not be happening for you is that you have yet to understand that until you do what needs to be done, nothing happens.

Accept the responsibility that you make things happen. If you are someone who complains about the way the ball bounces you are most likely the one who dropped it. Make something happen you can be proud of. Make something happen that you can become passionate about – something that serves others and makes you and others feel good. Make something happen that will have people look at you and say, “There goes a person with integrity. She doesn’t just talk about it, she does it.”

Accept responsibility for your own personal development. You can’t count on others for this. Remember, if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. When you get the burn to learn, you will begin to earn self-respect, money and much more. Read good books, listen to cassettes, and attend seminars and workshops. Consistently work on yourself. If you don’t, who will?

One sure sign that you are not accepting responsibility is to consistently cast blame on: the weather, the economy, your boss, your customers, your spouse or significant other, your kids and on and on. Elmer G. Leterman said, “A man may fail many times, but he won’t be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.” No one is defeated until he or she starts blaming someone or something else. Want success? Learn that accepting responsibility for your own success and achievement is mandatory not optional.

Life works. It works in direct proportion to the way you work it. It is working just the way you have planned it. If you are saying to yourself, “This is simply not true!” you most likely do not have a written plan. No plan is a plan to have things happen the way they happen. Consider the fact that your life is the way it is because of the choices you have made up to this point.

You must accept responsibility for your choices and for the consequences of your actions. Accept responsibility for the way things are. If you don’t like the way things are, change them. Unless you have a plan for life to be different than it is right now, life will continue to show up the way it always has for you.

Be accountable to yourself. When things work; take the credit. When things don’t work, take the heat.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Thursday, January 3, 2013

Networking Requires Accepting Responsibility

To be responsible has been defined as “involving personal accountability;” “being the source or cause of something;” and “able to be trusted or depended upon;” “reliable.”

coveyWhat do you suppose would happen if you made a commitment to be totally accountable to yourself for every aspect of your life? What would happen if you accepted the fact that you are the source and the cause of everything you do? What if you were able to be trusted and depended upon? What if you were absolutely reliable? What if you were count-on-able? Would this make a difference in your business, in your relationships, in your life? How would it make a difference? Think about it. This is a serious commitment, isn’t it? It is one you should consider.

Most everyone would agree that on the surface, you are honest, trustworthy, count-on-able, and reliable. You try hard to project that kind of image and yet perhaps life doesn’t seem to be working for you like you think it should. If you are lying to yourself; if, deep inside, you know integrity is lacking, then quit being a phony, and do something about it. Where is your commitment to be true to yourself? Where is your commitment to total integrity?

We are talking about the kind of commitment that you stand on. One that becomes a part of who you are. There can be no wavering in this commitment. Your actions demonstrate your commitment. From this kind of commitment you gain strength, support and power.

Be honest with yourself. Only when you are completely honest with yourself, can you be completely honest with other people. What’s your integrity level? Integrity has been defined as “the quality or state of being complete; unbroken condition; wholeness; entirety.” When you have integrity, you can have anything you want. Integrity allows you to live life at its fullest. Integrity isn’t about being good or bad. It’s about keeping your word to yourself only because you said you would. Integrity is living your life as your word, like your life depends on it. It does, you know. The foundation of power is integrity. There is power in having personal integrity.

Sometimes we have a tendency to try to pull one over on life; to lie to ourselves; to not totally tell the truth to others; to slide by; to cut corners; to withhold; to not give our all in our relationships with our family and friends and your networking support system; to sleaze-out on our promises; to coast; to not follow-up; to make excuses. There are only “results” or “reasons why.” The reasons why are called excuses. Excuses rob us of accomplishment.

NeverFailFollowUpResponsibility is two words. Response and ability. Think about it. How do you rate your ability to respond? What is your response ability? Choose a response that will empower you. Responses that come from anger and resentment disempowerment you! If you consistently find yourself responding in this way, you can use some work in this area.

Accept responsibility for a bright future. If things aren’t happening for you the way you want them to, you must accept responsibility that you may be spending too much time thinking about what you don’t want. You can’t win if you are always thinking about losing. Change your thinking, change your behavior and you change your life! What gets your total concentration gets you. Give up worrying about your circumstance and do something about it.

When you network with others, you have a responsibility to always be operating at your highest level. You consistently look for business referrals because you know it’s expected. You acknowledge that you must give referrals if you ever expect to receive any. You request one-on-one meetings with people in your network that you would like to know better. You follow-up immediately on the business leads that you do receive because you know that a lack of immediate follow-up is one of the biggest mistakes people in networking and salespeople in general make.

If you want business networking to pay off big for you, you must accept responsibility to be accountable to yourself for your own success. All it takes is a decision to stay on top of the game; to make yourself some new promises to yourself that from now on you are in it to win it; that you will do whatever it takes to make networking work better than it ever has. And you know that it is only and always up to you.

Do you have what it takes? What are you willing to do differently? Can you do that for yourself?

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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