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Sunday, September 6, 2015

How to Be Unforgettable

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Kathy McAfee, Guest Author

It all started by meeting Beth Pite on an ordinary day. It became quite an extraordinary networking connection. Meeting Beth was and will remain an unforgettable beginning. I will always be grateful to her and the Universe for bringing us together. That’s the magic of networking!

What makes people unforgettable in your mind?

NET-UnforgettableI asked Beth Pite what makes people unforgettable in her mind. She answered thoughtfully with the following perspective:

“There are different kinds of unforgettable. Your question suggests someone who stays with me for decades, which is partly habit, but largely shared history (jokes, memories of escapades and relationships, remembering birthdays with a card, etc.) In your case, it’s the shared history plus your unique energy.

What makes a relatively new person unforgettable is different. It might be a signature style (a guy who always wears bowties, a woman who always wears a hat) or creativity (a man with colorful clothing, a women who always has eye-catching jewelry or shoes.) It might be humor or a slightly off-center way of expressing themselves in presentations and business discussions.

I remember a few specific incidents that make the point. A professor at Wharton stated that a suitable ethical standard for business was not “getting through the day un-indicted.” An expert witness said “I can explain it to you, but I can’t understand it for you.” A client said “If you see a turtle on a fence post, he didn’t get there by himself.” These are all unique and memorable ways of saying things that would otherwise be fairly trite.”

Six Ways to Become Unforgettable

“You care, you dare and you share; this is the unforgettable rule of every true believer and achiever.” ~ Isrealmore Ayivor, author of Daily Drive 365: Positive Thoughts for Positive Living

Always be networking. Be open to the possibilities that anybody can become significant to your life, and you to theirs. Don’t prematurely judge the potential of a human connection. We are all connected in weird and wonderful ways.
Diversify your network, build relationships, and grow your sphere of influence daily.

Help other people. As noted in my book, the spirit of networking is helping others & asking for help. Give comes before Get. Help yourself by helping others. Make it a daily practice of paying it forward by helping strangers as well as people in your network. It will come back to you in wonderful ways!

Stay in touch over time. The goal is to build a relationship, not just a connection. Social media is nice, but it’s not enough. Stand out by doing what other people are reluctant to do: a) write personal cards and letters, 2) make the effort to share a meal; 3) pick up the telephone and let them hear your voice; 4) connect them to other people that can help accelerate their business,career or life. Face time will accelerate any relationship.

“You may like me. You may not like me. But, one thing is for damned sure…you will never forget me.” ~ Peter Cimino, author of The Four Corners- A Sicilian Story

Express your appreciation. Let them know how they impacted your life. Don’t just think about your gratitude, share it. Reach out and remind people how important they are/have been in your life. Share the love with words of affirmation and personal communication.

imagesBring good energy and positivity to every encounter. Nothing stands out like a good attitude. Realistic and optimistic are not mutually exclusive. Don’t blame your personality for your negative thinking or communication ineffectiveness. There are things you can do to shift your energy in more positive directions. (e.g., eat well, rest/sleep well, exercise, hang out with positive people, practice gratitude, and avoid consumption of negative/violent/sensational news reports,movies, media, etc.)

Be the extraordinary person that you were meant to be. Don’t settle for ordinary, average, or good enough. Embody the leader that you strive to be in all that you do and say. Be extraordinary when you are with people, by being fully present. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted with your Smartphone, your email, or your To Do List. Prioritize and invest in your own personal development …until the day that you die. Don’t forget about yourself. After all, you are unforgettable!

Bonus Articles: How Will They Remember You?
On Being Memorable. . .
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KathyCopyright 2015 – Kathy McAfee. Kathy McAfee is America’s Marketing Motivator and author of the book, “Networking Ahead for Business.” In her role as an Executive Presentation Coach and Motivational Speaker, Kathy helps her clients become the recognized leaders in their field by mastering the arts of high engagement presentations and more effective networking. Learn more at her Website: MarketingMotivator.net and NetworkingAhead.com.

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Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

The Perils of Routine

Filed under: Networking,Routine — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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There is a danger in sticking to the commonplace and familiar.

“A routine keeps you on task and keeps you moving when things are hard (which can be often). It also gives you space and a structure to work within. And it gives you a structure to break when it makes sense. There has to be a balance here – if you always break your routine, then it’s not a routine – but sometimes breaking your routine is exactly what you need.” ~ Dan Cumberland

NET-RoutineIt’s much better to have a plan of action to try to keep expanding your range of experience and knowledge about business networking. Anything helps that keeps you sharp, particularly if it puts you in touch with new ideas and people. We get stuck in mental ruts doing menial jobs.

Some people call it “Mind Maintenance.” It’s breaking out of the sometimes boring routine and allowing yourself to intentionally be side-tracked by something that will help train your brain… not strain your brain. Unfortunately, when some of us reach a certain status and level of success, we often feel complacent, contented with our way of life. We must break free from this cozy cocoon. Shake things up a little; take on new responsibilities and risks, and see where they take you.

Get up out of that chair, go jogging, take a different route to work, get out to the gym, stayed off your computer at night, take a swim, bike around the lake, shovel manure for an hour, do something. Working up a sweat gives your subconscious a chance to idle for a while, and as a bonus, it’s good for your body. Take a sandwich to work and eat it in the park. Read a chapter in a book you have put off reading. Do your to-do tasks in reverse order for a day. Learn to say no. Turn down opportunities if they aren’t in your best interest. Changing your routine is also a very easy way to give yourself new input from the world: new sights, sounds, perhaps new people to meet along the way.

“There are no limits to what you can accomplish when you are supposed to be doing something else.” ~ Larry James 😉

Look at it as an adventure. Finding new people to spend time with can open you up to different conversations. Learn to take a moment to learn something new every day. That’s one thing I do. It not only helps me in my business, but my everyday life. That “something new” doesn’t have to be about business. It needs to be something that broadens my horizon. It may be taking a few minutes to read the paper (a section I don’t usually read and at a time when I don’t usually do that) or taking a quick “power nap” for 5 to 7 minutes in the middle of the afternoon. That, my friend, is invigorating. Your goal is to explore life. Do something different. Make it more interesting.

Of course, I always recommend that you network. Try this. Give yourself a couple of nights off this week. Instead of attending every networking meeting on the planet, begin to focus on what you can give to one group. This demands loyalty. Networking says you must venture out into the world and meet as many people as you can, however, they don’t have to be people from lots of groups.

Talk to strangers. I meet new people standing in line at the bank. I recently met one woman who had similar interests in jazz. She had her husband call me to ask if I would like to be their guests at a recent jazz concert. Her husband happened to be an executive at a trade association and about a month later I was asked to be the keynote speaker at their annual meeting. This keynote had a healthy fee attached to it. You never know who you will meet.

Routine1Another distraction that I intentionally set up was someone who I like and trust and who has similar values and who I will be in constant contact with, motivating one another to do better. We brainstorm ideas together and learn from each other’s feedback. Not being in the same business is helpful too because I can get more honest feedback about new ideas, etc.

I will often vary my work schedule to hit the snooze alarm to get an hours more rest, sleep in and work later into the evening. Often getting up and hour or two earlier to get my day started sooner and, if possible, quit earlier and go to a movie. Breaking routine often give you a sense of adventure.

Keep your routine because it will make your life work for you, and break your routine when it needs to be broken. Sometimes life, energy, and creativity are found outside of your usual routine. Take a day off to evaluate that routine and shuffle it around. Give yourself permission to do anything you want with the day. Catch up with an old friend – face-to-face, not on social media. If you always check e-mail first thing in the morning… check it first thing after lunch.

Routinely break your routine. It can get your mind kickstarted in a new direction. It helps me be open to the new and different. You will be surprise at the results of what such small adjustments in your daily routine will give you. I often do what needs to be done and then call it quits to take some time out for me (that’s a difficult one for me!). However, I get inspiration from it. My creativity as a writer always gets a surge. It challenges me to go beyond my comfort zone. Often simply breaking routine helps me get more done from my to-do list.

Some of your chores, tasks, e-mail, social media posts, etc., can all wait a few hours or a day. I promise. Stepping out of your routine can provide your brain with fresh information. Like me, you will see your world differently, be refreshed and be more prepared to take on what needs to be done next.

BONUS Articles: What Successful People Do With The First Hour Of Their Work Day
Schedule 30 Minutes a Day for In-Office Networking Activity

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, August 21, 2015

The #1 Contact Sport

Business and personal networking is the #1 contact sport for people on the move. Networking is about building supportive personal and business relationships; it’s consistently meeting new people and making new friends, sharing ideas and having lots of fun in the process.

It is the reciprocal process of exchanging, leads, recommendations, and other valuable information, through networks of established relationships, in an effort to make business processes easier and more profitable.

NETContactSportIt helps to establish referral networks, bolster name reputations and business branding, gain recognition and credibility, and strengthen relationship assets. Networking fuels business growth and can help further your career.

It also assists you in benefiting from who you know by leveraging your relationships to increase business opportunities, advance your career, make new contacts, and much more.

Power networkers effectively use “word-of-mouth” strategies in creative ways to attract new customers and meet new people. Word-of-mouth marketing works because it is initiated from trusted sources and shared through a network of friends, family and acquaintances. It’s also called “creating Buzz.”

Referrals and recommendations are the most effective and the least expensive form of developing new business and obtaining quality business referrals. To be effective in networking, you must be an investor in relationships. This Networking Blog will help you master the skills necessary to effectively utilize existing connections and cultivate new ones.

You would be wise to accept the following definition of business networking as your guide:

Networking is… using your creative talents to help others achieve their goals as you cultivate a network of people strategically positioned to support you in your goals… expecting nothing in return! ~ Larry James

Successful business networkers are “go-givers.” They give without the expectation of getting! They know that unfulfilled expectations always cause problems; disappointment, anxiety, frustration and sometimes, intense displeasure. To avoid these maladies, they give up their expectations and focus on giving to help others!

Your contact list is your greatest off balance sheet asset. It doesn’t take an investment of a lot of money in developing this asset, but you do need to put forth time and effort and be consistent in acquiring a robust and every-expanding business network of like-minded people. Creating and maintaining these strong connections must be one of your highest priorities. I promise this will pay dividends far beyond what you can imagine.

There is a time and a place for networking – it’s called “anytime, and any place!” Always bring your best attitude with you!

BONUS Articles: Your #1 Networking Priority!
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netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Monday, August 17, 2015

“Your Name is Larry James!”

Imagine my surprise when I went to my favorite Taco Bell (101 & Frank Lloyd Wright, Scottsdale) to get a “*Diamondback Special” and the gal who waited on me called me by name. She looked me straight into the eyes and said, “Your name is Larry James!” It was only the second time that Hanna had ever taken my order.

I was not the only person she called by name. People in front of me and behind me were simply amazed at her recall of customer’s names. I heard, “WoW!”, “I can’t believe she remembered my name!”, there were smiles and giggles and many other remarks of astonishment. The buzz near the cashier was incredible. I watched as one customer looked down to see if he had forgotten to take his name tag off.

NET-URLarryJamesEveryone was talking to each other – even those who, it was obvious – did not know each other before today. It was all about the girl ringing up the orders. Even after I received my order and was sitting in a booth I could hear other taco lovers nearby still talking about it. Her interaction with her customers was causing quite a wonderful stir.

I sat there enjoying my tacos, thinking (outside the bun, of course). I wondered if her manager had told her to do this? I wondered if he knew she was doing this? I wondered how she did it? Did she do it with everyone?

Finally I was so curious that I watched for when she had no customers and went to talk with her. I told her that I admired what she was doing. She blushed. I told her what a great thing she was doing for Taco Bell. She looked a little puzzled. I went on to say that people love to hear their name and everyone there whose name she remembered was talking about it.

The fact that she remembered me only after waiting on me once before was quite amazing. She said, “I do pretty good at remembering the regulars.” She said she tries to remember something about the person that helps her remember their names. And she speaks their name often when she waits on them which also helps her to remember. When their order is ready, she calls their name and gets to see them again.

I asked if her manager knew she had a knack for remembering names. She said no. I told her not to tell her manager, Javier, that it would be best if he heard about it from her customers – that it would soon get back to him and I would be surprised if she didn’t receive some special recognition for it. (We now know that he WILL know very soon because word gets around & I will make sure of that!).

3FREEtacosWhat a terrific way for people to remember Hanna and her Taco Bell store. She told me that she did it for fun to help her pass the time away. I’m pretty sure that she also enjoyed hearing the great comments from the customers.

Often it’s those extra little things, attention to detail, sometimes it’s just a smile, that brings customers back to your business. Today, I would like for everyone one of you networkers be especially aware of thinking up creative ways to make your customers and other networkers in your network feel good enough to smile – or laugh. It’ll cause you and the people you interact with to feel real good. Do it.

It would be great to see some of the ways you do something special for your customers and other networkers in the “Comments” below.

* Diamondback Special: When the Arizona Diamondbacks baseball team scores at least 5 runs in any game, the next day, when you purchase a large drink at Taco Bell, they will give you 3 Free beef tacos.

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Sunday, August 9, 2015

Getting to Know You…

Filed under: Follow Up,Networking — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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You’ve probably been told that networking is about building relationships and getting to know people, right? It is. AND just attending a weekly networking meeting and hoping someone brings you a referral is not enough. Networking is much more than that.

We all know that time is a limited resource for most business people, and it’s important to use your time well. The people who take the time to regularly meet with those in their network are the ones who come out ahead. It’s also much more than just a quick “follow-up” after you meet someone new. It requires regular dialogue. That is called smart networking.

NETGetting2KnowU“Engagement is an absolutely critical step in the networking process. It involves a promise and an action. In order to achieve success in your group of networking relationships, you and your relationships must promise to support one another and then take the actions necessary to fulfill that promise.” ~ Ivan Misner

You may recall the line in the song… “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.” Let’s focus on the second part, getting to know “all about you.” That’s how you develop close business relationships. Getting to know the people in your network must be a high priority. It is basically the ability to connect with like-minded people to share, recognize, create or pursue opportunities not just in the meeting but making time to get to know each other outside of the meetings as well. It leads to mutual trust and respect. You have to cultivate deep relationships with your connections before you can ask them for a favor or expect them to give you business referrals.

High-performing professionals know their careers will be defined by the relationships they build. Reach out and touch someone. That’s when your networking skills really come into play. When someone approaches you to meet and get to know you better, that should get your attention. That’s what it does. It impresses me that someone wants to know more about what I do. That’s also what it does for them. It’s your chance to make a lasting impression. This face-to-face engagement is – in my opinion – the best way to deepen the relationship. Before I leave, I always ask, “What is the best way for use to stay in touch?”

Networking is nothing more than meeting new people and getting to know them better. It’s the art of building alliances. Your goal is to get people to open up about a subject dear to them that helps you develop rapport. A get-together outside of a meeting is NOT about telling them all about you. What do they like to do when they are not networking (families, hobbies and special interests). Don’t be shy to ask questions. Be a good listener.

Get specific. Ask them who would be a good prospect or referral for them, or what resources they might need. Find out what they need. Who do they need to meet. Offer to help them find that someone. You’re there to focus on building a relationship, not trying to get something out of them. Please remember that. Seek out ways to collaborate. This activity is reciprocal: other people get to know you better too. You soon become friends with benefits and remember, most relationships endure because we continue to stay in touch.

If you want an advantage in your career, you need to start building relationships with amazing people others have overlooked. Some of those people may already be in attendance at your local meetings.

It’s important to invest the time and effort in getting to know the people in your network. “Make” some time. Get to know your networking friends and maybe even get to like them too. The time you invest will be paid back many times over. Always send a handwritten follow-up note through the U.S. Mail within 24 hours of your meeting. This is not only a courtesy, it will differentiate you from the many others they may have met, however they will remember you!

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Wednesday, August 5, 2015

What If I Hadn’t Answered the Phone?

Several years ago I was getting ready to leave my office for a networking luncheon meeting. As I was heading out the door, my office phone rang. I had only a split second to choose to answer or allow my voice-mail to pick up. I answered the phone and I am glad I did.

Over the past several months I had been talking with a client about presenting a series of networking events in Chicago and discovered that she was calling from a hotel in Scottsdale – the same hotel as my networking meeting. What a convenient coincidence. I told her I was on my way to her hotel to a business networking meeting and invited her to go with me. She accepted.

NET-InviteClientI was excited to introduce her to my friends and to let her see that I was actually practicing what I preached and to be an example of how important my networking meeting was. Another coincidence was that I had been asked to present my “Ten Commitments of Networking” talk for the group and since she had not heard me speak I was glad it was all coming together.

After the meeting was over, I was anxious to meet with her to talk about the Chicago event, but she had been cornered by someone who was interested in her business. I watched as she made an appointment to meet with them later that day.

I found out later that she had other business in Scottsdale and was calling me just to stay in touch, not being sure we would be able to meet during her visit.

The point I want to make is that unless it is absolutely necessary, never miss a networking meeting. If you have a meeting scheduled and a client shows up at the last minute… invite them to go with you. In other words, having a client show up at the last minute is no excuse for missing a meeting. You have to think smart and fast.

This was not the first time I had invited a client to visit a networking meeting with me, but it was the series of events on that day and the twists and turns that happened that made it one of the most financially profitable invitations for both me and her. She booked me for a series of 7 networking seminars for her company and invited some of her special clients to attend at no fee (another one of my creative ideas). I later discovered that she made a big sale as a result of attending my meeting with me. After the 6th networking event in Chicago, one of her clients booked me for a networking seminar for their large insurance company – about 165 sales associates attended.

I know. They all don’t work out like that, but what if I had gone to the meeting without answering the phone as I was leaving my office? Literally thousands of dollars would have been down the drain. Last minute or not, invite your clients to your meetings (buy their breakfast or lunch), allow them to see how active you are in the networking community… especially if you think they or someone they know would be a good fit for the group you’re involved with. If they are attending for the first time, you should make sure that you introduce them to other people in your group who may need their product or service.

It’s important to get to the point where your networking is so integrated into your normal business activity that it no longer feels like something you must do, but that you truly enjoy doing, not only for you but for others as well.

A true networker is one who constantly seeks to form new relationships and strengthen them by helping others solve problems and achieve their goals. The next time you attend a business networking event, take along a referral partner, client or other contact from your own personal network.

How committed are you to your networking group?

BONUS Article: Demonstrate Your Commitment to Networking ~ Here’s How
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netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, July 24, 2015

Help Others – Give Before You Receive!

Alan Chapman, Guest Author

Always prioritise helping and giving to others ahead of taking and receiving for yourself.

You must give in order to receive. Be helpful to others and you will be helped in return.

Networks of people are highly complex – often it is not possible to see exactly how and why they are working for you, so you must trust that goodness is rewarded, even if the process is hidden and the effect takes a while.

Use the principle of ‘what goes around comes around’.

REL-GiveFirstYou could think of this as Karma in business.

A possible explanation of how Karma (or whatever you call it) produces positive outcomes is found in the rule of ’cause and effect’, or the scientific law (loosely speaking) that ‘every action has an equal reaction’.

Good deeds and helpfulness tend to produce positive effects. They are usually remembered and often repaid. The giver builds reputation and trust. Referrals tend to result.

Imagine yourself having lots of personal connections like this. You become known as a helpful person. Word about you spreads, and your reputation grows.

People who give are seen to have strength to give. Followers gravitate to strong giving people.

Helping others extends far beyond your personal specialism or line of work. Networking is about working within a system (of people) enabling relevant high quality introductions and cooperations, which get great results for the participants. These enabling capabilities transcend personal specialisms.

Cybernetics provides one interesting and useful way to understand how best to approach this. In adapting cybernetics for business networking, the technique is two-pronged:

• interpret (especially what people need and what will help them)
• respond (in a way which those involved will find helpful)

At a simpler level, always try to ask helpful questions. These typically begin with ‘what’ and ‘how’, and address an area of interest to the other person, not you.

Open questions (who, what, how, when, etc – also “Tell me about…”) give the other person opportunity to speak and express their views and feelings:

Ask people:

“How can I help you?”

“What can I do for you?”

Closed questions (requiring a yes or no answer, or another single response, for example “Is this your first time here?”) do not offer the other person much opportunity to talk, although at certain times a good relevant closed question can be vital for clarifying things:

“Do you mean X or Y?”

“Do you want to do X or would you prefer that I do it?”

The questioning section of the sales training guide contains many useful pointers about effective questioning techniques, from the view of helping others.

Sharon Drew Morgen’s Facilitative Methodology, while primarily developed for selling, is strongly based on working with systems (of people especially) and includes many excellent ideas and techniques which can be used in business networking and helping others.

The communications concepts of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and TA (Transactional Analysis) also contain useful techniques for helping others, and for understanding the underpinning psychology.

Be creative and constructive in how you regard others and how you might help them. Being defensive and making assumptions tends to limit options and growth.

For example try to see your competitors as potential allies. There is a fine dividing line between the two behaviours, and positioning too many people/companies in the competitor camp can make life unnecessarily difficult. When you talk to your competitors you will often surprise yourselves at the opportunities to work together, in areas (service, territory, sector, application, etc) where you do not compete, and even possibly in areas where you do compete. This is particularly so for small businesses who can form strategic alliances with like-minded competitors to take a joint-offering to a market and compete for bigger contracts.

BONUS Articles: “How Can I Help You?”
Your #1 Networking Priority!
Surround Yourself With “Givers!”
How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You…

Copyright © 2015 – Alan Chapman. BusinessBalls.com is a free ethical learning and development resource for people and organizations, run by Alan Chapman, in Leicester, England. Businessballs.com launched at the end of 1999. The concept began a few years earlier as an experimental online collection of learning and development ideas. The website is now used by about a million people each month. Alan originally created the BusinessBalls name for juggling balls in his training and development business. The philosophy of the website is intended to be ethical, practical, innovative, compassionate and enjoyable.

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Monday, July 20, 2015

Networkers: Let’s be More Technical and Smart!

In order to be a master networker, you must always maintain a positive attitude no matter what. To me that’s the easy part, for others, not so much. Negativity runs rampant among many networkers who are not doing so well, who are more interested in making a sale than building a relationship that will eventually deliver their biggest return on investment.

NET-PrerequisitesSome of the signs that tip us off is the tendency to become more aggressive and persistent. The hard sell is dead. They chase away prospects using that approach. It doesn’t work when networking. You’ll be much more likely to make the sale once you’ve established a relationship. They’re not there to make friends. And they’re certainly not interested in developing mutually valuable relationships.

Some of these people just like to complain about everything. They quibble about not getting any referrals and often their quibbling has a profound effect on others. They either need to learn more about what works when networking or just quit. Not changing their attitude will keep them stuck. I think it’s time for a major shift in thinking as it relates to business networking.

Let’s all focus on shifting from aggressive and persistent to more technical and smart.

I’m sure you may have noticed that the more aggressive and persistent you become, the more frustrated you get. Being enthusiastic and motivated are part of the technical and smart way of networking. I suppose being technical is becoming familiar with networking ideas that really work and working smart is putting your own spin on how you network. Technical is not about iPhones, Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. It’s about using networking tools that work and also about enjoying being someone who helps people. Someone who enjoys being a supportive friend. To me that is one of the top prerequisites. Others are to be self-less and generous. Enthusiasm is important too. Be interested in people first… business come second!

“Master networkers don’t let any opportunity to work their networks pass them by. They manage their contacts with contact management software, organize their e-mail address files and carry their referral partners’ business cards as well as their own. They set up appointments to get better acquainted with new contacts so that they can learn as much about them as possible so that they can truly become part of each other’s networks.” ~ Ivan Misner

That’s another thing. The people who are aggressive and persistent about their aggressiveness generally “only” network at the networking meeting or at specific networking events. Where is that written? To be a master networker you must be networking and thinking networking all the time! Always being on the lookout for people you can help. To me networking is a way of life and a extremely good way to do business.

The idea Ivan Misner wrote about above about carrying their referral partners’ business cards as well as their own wherever they go is a hot idea! I carry my referral list with me when on appointments. The closing conversation always gets around to me asking them if they need any help in any areas of their business. When they need a DJ for a wedding, I can give them several names with complete contact info. I also want to know if they would like a personal introduction. If so, I will call one of the DJs and tell them I have someone interested in their business and turn the phone over to them. You will become known as a powerful resource for others.

Networking does not come natural to most people. Some have a knack for it and others stumble until they learn better ways than being aggressive and overly persistent. A good way to get started is by learning from your mistakes. It’s important to keep in mind that networking is about being genuine and authentic, building trust and relationships, and seeing how you can help each other. Networking is not for those who are caught up in the “if I don’t make this sale, I’ll be up the creek!” mode.

If you’re going to networking events focusing on getting clients, you’ll miss out on what you could find: Connections! Focus on getting to know people instead. They may not buy your product today, or ever, but in time they may send numerous people your way who could – but not unless you develop a relationship with them. You’re find networking opportunities in places like elevators, busses, supermarkets or parks not just networking meetings or events. Networking is a fundamental tool to the success of any business provided you use the right tools effectively.

There is a time and a place for networking – it’s called “anytime, and any place!” Just bring your best attitude with you!

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Thursday, July 16, 2015

No Close Relationships ~ No Referrals!

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Relationships! That’s where you begin. People only do business with people they like and trust. No relationships – No referrals! You must KNOW these close relationships! Really know them. Networking is not about how many sales you can make. It’s about starting at the beginning – the introduction to someone new and then working the relationship until you become close business friends. That’s when the business referrals will begin to come to you.

NET-PluggedINWhen you talk to other networkers, make it clear that you want to help in whatever way you can and that their business sincerely matters to you. Every connection has to be heartfelt, or it won’t work.

One thing I know for sure. I know that collaboration between networkers in networking meetings and outside of the meetings is a principle driver of creativity, innovation and, therefore business advantage. Continue to build your network outside of the meeting. Failure to invest in collaborative techniques will greatly hamper your networking productivity.

I also know that to get recognized and noticed as a professional networker you must do things that help others before you can ever expect them to do things like passing along a referral to you. If you help people out when they need assistance, then people will help you out too. When you take the time to build and nurture relationships with the people around you, you’ll build a network of “allies” who will help you when you most need it. You call attention to yourself by paying attention to others.

Do you really know the people in your network? I mean, “really” know them? We all need to dig a little deeper. Be on a crusade to develop closer business and personal relationships with those in our network. Schedule follow-up meetings to visit their office, read their flyers, and really get to know them personally and professionally. Carry their business cards with you in a large business card holder so you can be ready in case an opportunity to share their work with your friends outside of your network shows up. Professional networkers make friends easily… close friends. The closer the connection, the better networking works!

“There is no greater reward then helping others help themselves.” ~ Larry James

We all need to get to know those friends that are in our networking circle much better. We need to focus on “them.” We all need to dig a little deeper. We need to get to the good stuff about our networking friends. We need to get excited about knowing more about the people we are connected to. We need to learn more about their businesses so we can truly get excited enough about them and their business that we can’t help but want to share about them with our friends. After all, isn’t that what networking is really about… building close business relationships that support each other? You can’t do that if you think networking is always about selling “your” services to others and getting business leads. Networking is about giving.

Networking is… using your creative talents to help others achieve their goals as you cultivate a network of people strategically positioned to support you in your goals… expecting nothing in return! ~ Larry James

BONUS Article: “How Can I Help You?”
Out-of-Meeting Follow Up
“Just Makin’ Some New Friends…”

netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Sunday, July 12, 2015

Networking for Introverts

Marie Forleo, Guest Author

If you’ve ever questioned the best way to balance your need for “quiet” with the never-ending opportunities to “put yourself out there” — today’s MarieTV episode is for you.

Shy? Introvert? You’ll learn five super helpful strategies to “putting yourself out there” in a way that works perfectly with your quiet nature.

Larry’s NOTE: Networkers… Pay attention to this video if you are the least bit introverted. If you are an extrovert, this might help understand their dilemma. Perhaps several of the articles in the “BONUS Article” section below will also help.

Susan Cain, author of QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, believes the power of introverts lies in what many consider their weaknesses. In this video you’ll learn key ways from Susan Cain to use introverted traits to your benefit in business and life, and discover how to be fully yourself when networking.

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1. Choose Your Business Or Career Wisely. Ask yourself if a job or career will be a good fit for your introverted temperament. Susan Cain suggests choosing a line of work that fits and that you’re also passionate about.

DenzelWashington2. Make A Quota. Instead of battling with yourself over every social invitation, create a quota system for how often you’ll go out and socialize. Once you meet your quota, you can comfortably turn down additional invitations.

3. The Power Of One And Rule Of Thumb For Networking. If you’re introverted, reframe networking in a way that works for you. Instead of worrying about working an entire room at a networking event, focus on finding just one kindred spirit you can connect with.

4. The Power Of Partnerships. Find a partner who is a complement to your temperament and skill-set.

5. When It’s Time To Fly, Don’t Deny. When you’re out in the world being social, you’ll eventually reach your breaking point where you’re reading to go home. Train yourself in graceful ways to exit social events when you’re ready to leave.

Susan Cain’s website: www.ThePowerOfIntroverts.com
Susan Cain’s book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking!

BONUS Articles: Overcome Social Anxiety with the 3-Second Rule
Don’t be a Networking Wallflower
Do You Fade Into the Wall?
Working a Room If You’re SHY – No Pills Required
Shy, eh? Get Over It!

marieCopyright © 2015 – Marie Forleo. Marie Forleo is a marketing and lifestyle expert who inspires countless individuals to live Rich, Happy & Hot™. She reaches over 90,000 readers in 188 countries worldwide with her weekly videos and newsletter, and leads dynamic training programs that teach individuals to succeed in business and life. Visit Marie’s Website!

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Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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