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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Reinvent Yourself!

Many people who talk about reinventing yourself are talking about reinventing your business. I’d like to point out that the biggest percentage of those who come to me with a business problem do, in fact, need to reinvent their business, but first they fail to see that they need to reinvent themselves from the inside out first.

One of the most powerful and challenging crossroads is where personal and business sometimes collides. When your business is not working like you know it should, it’s time to take an honest look at yourself instead of blaming the market, your spouse, your boss, etc. Problems at home? Start there if you want business to work better. You’ve heard it before and I will say it again, your overall attitude about how your life is going has an enormous effect on how your business progresses.

NET-ReInventReinvention is easier said than done! Reinventing yourself can be exciting and scary and seldom ever smooth, but rewarding beyond what you can imagine.

“What would it be like to start living the life you’d love to live, and becoming the person who belongs in that life?” ~ Sharon Good

Most people just need a swift kick in the pants to get their attention. To be a driving force in business, you must first determine what it takes to propel your potential forward. That’s you. Not your business. There are so many things in our personal lives that affect nearly every aspect of the business side of things. Getting those things under control in your personal life gives you more choices and more control over your business interests.

For example: I spoke recently to a friend who was having trouble following up with clients who had already shown an interest in her business. To me, that’s a transaction that is about to be made. When I asked her what made her feel that way, she said she could never be sure how they were going to react or what they might say, etc., etc. “I feel like I am soliciting.” That’s because when you are selling your product or service, you are soliciting their business. Realizing that you cannot predict or control what others might say or do, you only need to move forward and follow-up regardless. A lack of effective follow-up is, in my opinion, one of the biggest mistakes salespeople make.

It is the possibility of failure – the anticipation of failure – that paralyses action and becomes the primary reason for failure and ineffective problem solving. The real problem is working past the fear and accepting that for you to make the sale, you have to ask for the order! Time to muster up some courage. True courage isn’t about not feeling fear; it’s about feeling fear and doing what needs to be done in spite what or how you feel.

When you have your act together in your personal life, you can very quickly begin to realize that you can maximize the benefits of what you have learned because the path you take to complete recovery affects the direction your business will grow.

Remember, we are talking about reinventing yourself from the “inside out” first. When you do that you begin to make some noise in business that will arouse interest in what you are doing business wise. You will notice small increments of positive change that can often baffle your competition. You feel better about yourself. You pay closer attention to your customers and clients and your business begins to blossom. It recharges your creativity. You let go of fear or anything else that keeps you stuck which creates a space for the unknown to work its magic. Staying stuck dims your sparkle. You discover new ways of being, sometimes on your own and often with a coach.

“Anger and negative emotions of all kinds are dependent upon blame for their very existence. As soon as you stop blaming other people for what has happened and take responsibility for the future, your negative emotions cease, your mind becomes calm and clear, and you begin to make better decisions.” ~ Brian Tracy

butterflyTake a break and get your life together! You are sure to emerge all charged up and ready for whatever is next.

Every person faces the challenges of quickly moving from what they are now to what they need to become to be competitive. Focusing on getting your personal act together can accelerate change, the single most important strategic weapon for business success.

I know from personal experience that when people and new ideas all come together, business can move further, faster. The time you invest in your own personal growth goes from a cost of doing business to something that can transform your entire business perspective.

Your company’s greatest strategic resource is you. To move up in the world you must make sure that your company sees progress in you and that not only will you do a better job for them, but you will empower others along the way and even surpass their expectations.

Sometimes your eureka moment is when you give up a stance – “I can do this by myself. I don’t need any help!” – and try something new like giving up having to be right! We often struggle with limiting beliefs or stories about ourselves that hold us back from trying new things. It’s important to take control of who we will become or risk never reaching our full potential.

You have the power to solve whatever challenges you are facing. Believe me. You do. And… you may need to ask for help! There is no shame is asking for assistance when you need it. Every business person should have several close friends, confidents, that they can go to for help. Having that kind of network of support is important to put together before you need it.

Things may happen around you and things may happen to you, but the only things that really count are the things that happen within you.

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netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Thursday, September 10, 2015

Networking is a Blueprint for Change!

Within the concept of networking is a blueprint for change. With change comes new ways of thinking. If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. Change your blueprint… change your business!

There is only one way to keep your career growing. YOU must keep growing. Develop an unshakable, unstoppable mindset that will give you the competitive advantage in your industry. Ask the men and women who network about the personal growth they have experienced. Ask them about how much better they feel about themselves now that they are doing more of what the pros do.

NET-BlueprintIt takes courage to network; do put yourself “out there;” to consistently move toward something better; to become the someone you look up to. The more you network, the more courage you receive. Be courageous and you will discover more courage!

Unless you are committed to doing more than you’ve done before, you will feel some discomfort when becoming involved in networking. This is natural. You will be in the presence of doers. You, who are not doing, may be confronted by this. Thus, you may feel uncomfortable.

People who do more get results! They are actively engaged in activities that feed their enthusiasm for their calling. For them, backward in not an option. They are on “fast forward.” They get things done. They make every minute count when they are networking. They are aware of the “net” result. They know that what you put out to the universe, always comes back to you. They are dedicated to doing good for others.

How many successful people do you know? Network to get to know more. The energy they dedicate to helping others is infectious. Attitude counts! It is often the biggest impediment to productive networking experiences. Listen to their success stories. Adapt their skill sets. Listen for the opportunity that a fresh perspective presents. For me, it’s a lesson in inspiration; inspiring me to be the best I can be.

“Great networkers treat their network like a bank account, considering each connection as a relationship invested. They weigh up its value captured in their ‘balance sheet,’ long before they consider their actions reflected in the ‘P&L.'” ~ Patrick O’Brien

For a horse, one inch farther often wins the race. In networking, you never know when the next contact you make may be the one inch that puts you in the winner’s circle.

Networkers play too! When they play, they have fun. They know that the time they devote to social and recreational activities with family and friends pays off with a sense of having recharged their batteries. After 11 years of networking, my friend, Nancy Siegel (Tulsa, OK) advises: “Know when to stop and recharge. Learn how to say “no” to please yourself instead of “yes” to please others. when you network, network! When you play, play!”

Remember too, the energy level of successful people operates above average because they love who they are and what they do.

Above average people network for above average results. They know a good thing when they see one. They stick with it. They are the above average men and women who have discovered a wonderful contact sport called “networking” and are still making new and exciting personal and business contacts after “all these years.”

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netHQCopyright © 2015 – Larry James. Adapted from Larry’s latest book, Ten Commitments of Networking: Creative Ways to Maximize Your Personal Connections! Larry James is a Professional Speaker, Author and Networking Coach. He presents networking seminars nationally and “Networking” coaching by telephone or one-on-one. Something NEW about Networking is posted on this Networking BLOG every 4th day! Visit Larry’s Networking Website at: “Networking HQ!”

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Friday, November 16, 2012

Choose the Right Path…

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Have you ever been driving down a road and – distracted for a moment by a side road – and wondered what was down that road?

chooseApathIn life we take many different paths. Some are smart choices and others may lead you further away from what you really want. Often life feels like a maze in which you have to figure out the pathway to find your way out.

“Everything that you want to be… you already are, and you are simply on the path to discovering it.” ~ Alicia Keys, on the show, “Black Girls Rock!”

There is no safe path. Choosing the path you will take requires some degree of risk. Often the paths we choose offer new ways of learning that prepares us for future paths. Making choices isn’t always easy. However, never making a choice will keep you stuck!

Making a wise decision sometimes requires asking for assistance. Be sure you ask someone who is successful at doing what you want to do. Whether we recognize it at the time, there are people we encounter who can help or hurt us. Be very wary. Ensure that their intentions are good. When things sound too good, they usually are. When the scheme seems too fast, it may be just that – a fast one, with no redeeming value.

It has been my experience that some of the most successful people I know are more than willing to offer suggestions and in some cases will schedule an occasional mentoring session. Never be afraid to ask. Two such people for me were Tom Hopkins, professional speaker and Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of the Chicken Soup books, both very busy and certainly successful in their areas of expertise. Chance encounters with influential people can provide a bridge to an unexpected fork in the road. Be sure you area “looking” for opportunity otherwise you may not recognize it when it shows up.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” ~ John Lennon

The choice to be on the wrong path narrows quickly and every step makes it harder to turn back. Don’t be someone who goes from one opportunity to the next at the drop of a hat because you want to be on the path to get rich quick. Genuine success take time. It’s important to learn – sooner than later – to recognize that the way you are heading is taking you in the wrong direction and that you need to make some changes.

pathChoiceHow can you be 100% sure that the path you’ve chosen is the right path? The answer is within you. It takes some serious self-inquiry to know what you want and which path to choose. If the path you choose is littered with adversity, always remember, problems are to make us not to break us. We are often much stronger after a challenge and therefore better prepared for what is next.

We must learn to trust our intuition. Gut instinct is a valid compass that can lead us in the right direction. Sometimes we take several paths that lead us to do “some” of the things we wish to do, but than a better opportunity confronts us and we get to make another choice.

It took me many years to finally find my purpose in life. First I was a radio disc jockey. That was fun and I worked with many of the top recording artists in the 60s. I got paid $50 a week and all the records I could eat. 😉 I was in real estate for 23 years which led me to training the new associates at Detrick, Realtors, the largest company in Tulsa, Oklahoma. As time passed, I was appointed by the Governor to the Oklahoma Real Estate Commission and I began speaking state-wide. After an appearance on ABC TVs “The View” where Barbara Walters interviewed me when my first relationship book, “How to Really Love the One You’re With” was released, my career took a new national path. Later I began performing “romantic” wedding ceremonies that fit nicely with my relationship books and seminars.

Each path taught me something different and each prepared me for what I am doing today. I am grateful that I took the time to investigate each opportunity before I took the first step. Sometimes we have to take the first step while we are still afraid.

Do I need to remind you that it’s essential to have time to think and know what it is you want to do in life? You need a plan. Make sure your plan is loose enough to allow you to adapt when life presents you another path.

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